Mumblings. Sorry.

5 steps to get a cat.

1. Give your parents cookies.

2. Tell them that you are going to get a cat that you will take full responsibility for.

3. Clean your house.

4. Give yourself a cookie for actually cleaning the house.

5. Get a cat.

Result: Someday is today.

My dad doesn't like cats. Plus I don't have the money to look after one. Someday will be never.

Hello I just wanted to say I hope you find the answers you are looking for. I feel like everything you wrote was written by me I'm exactly the same, I want help but I'm too shy to get it.

Sorry I couldn't offer any advice, still looking for the answers myself!

I just don't know what to do with my life I'm 20 years old, I know for some people that might sound young, but for me, I feel old. I feel like half my life has passed me by already. Now it's just like what's the point. If I ever do find something I want to do, it would take me years of education, and by the time I finish and graduate or whatever, I'll be so old it would've made everything so pointless and it would've been a complete waste of time and effort. I don't want to spend half my life trying to be something that's inevitably never going to happen.

Oh I don't think you wil be short on money nor live with your dad forver...

I am 20 years old myself and I have a similar feeling about eduacation too. It feels like I started this education way to late but in fact I started it as soon as possible and there are plenty of classmates that are older than me.

Few people DO know what they wanna do at this age. What I am trying to say is that even if you go an 3 years education and decide that wasn't your thing then in the second education you'll read you might who is 23. But this is if you realize it AFTER 3 YEARS.... which is quite unlikely. If you don't like the education you'll most likely realize that before those 3 years have past.

Look ICWAI, there isn't anything negative with starting a course or a complete education. Worst case scenario is that you realize thats not what you wanted to know or that you fail and then you'll probably get at least one more chance. It's even better to read "patterns cups in japanese history" than nothing.

Btw about psychology not being as you expected search for courses with the word "cognition" in it. That might be more about how our perception works and how we behave and why and so on.

[quote] Money is ALWAYS a problem, and unless my death comes, then I will probably be stuck with my parents forever.


As I said, I don't want to spend years of my life learning something that will eventually end up being a waste of time. Millions of people get educations but yet half of them end up being in a job that has nothing to do with whatever grades or degrees they graduated with. Why waste so much time and effort, and money on an education but yet still end up nowhere. What's the point in that?

It's not so much that the course put me off, just the lecturer and that I failed. In all honesty, I love psychology, but as I've said, everything just becomes so difficult for me. There's no drive in me to want to study, the topics we had to revise were pathetic and the questions I never understood and I've always found it difficult to ask for help. Somedays I think about retaking the course, but I don't want to waste my time again. And I have no drive or motivation to want to take it again.

Some programs that could start you on a career take only 1 or 2 years. They might not be glamorous jobs, but a lot of things become interesting only after you get involved doing them.

If a stranger told you the things you are telling yourself, I would think they were mean and feeding you a pack of lies. It's not inevitable that you couldn't get somewhere. It will be if you accept that as truth. But it is not.

Did you have some dream of doing something that really would take a long process of advanced education?

If your dream was to be a big deal movie star, that might be unrealistic. It might be kind late to learn dramatic arts. If your dream was to be a concert pianist, that might be unrealistic. Some things take very early training. It probably is too late to aim at being an Olympic champion marathon runner.

Lots of other things really are attainable. You wouldn't be starting completely from scratch. Just the way that you write shows you have a very good basic education. There are plenty of college students who can't even put a sentence together as well as you do. If you started an academic program next fall, you would move along much easier that they can. You might be 2 or 3 years behind them in earning credits for courses, but you are already beyond a lot of them in your level of literacy. Five years from now, you might out-compete them in the job market. It can't be more than 3 years since you left secondary school. I think even Prince William took a year of traveling before he went to University. You are not seriously behind your age peers in any way, except in the area of gaining confidence. That confidence will come, if - and only if - you go try learning something and find that you can. And you will find that you can. I'll bet you did quite well in school when you attended.

My first instinct is to say try to do only one thing right now, that's it, nothing more. When my oldest sister died last year I became frozen and couldn't do anything, nothing interested me. I just sat around. My other sister said paint your nails every week, do colours that make you feel good so that every time you see your fingers your mood changes a little. That was my start. It helped me. Some daily ritual....put lipstick on every day even if it is on your ear...something...anything....

[quote]I don't want to take a course or do something that I don't want, what would be the point in that? It wouldn't be interesting or fun, it wouldn't be me.

Not really. Just to be a Psychologist which can take at least 7 years, give or take.

This isn't true, some people were kind of born to act or have a natural talent for it. There are many famous actors who never went to drama school AND started late.

Depends on how good you are at running and how athletic you are.

I got basic grades. Mainly C's. School finished when I was 15/16, so it's been 4/5 years. If I went back to college and did a course, I would be older than most, seeing as they'll be around 16/17. A 3/4 year difference, doesn't seem like a big age difference to most people I guess but to me it does. I figured that by the time I'd be finished with College and Uni, I'd be at least 29. But I am thinking about going back to college, just not 100% sure yet :/.

I recently got in touch with an old high school friend, she mentioned about how painfully shy i was and she felt for me. I was just like you, painfully shy i mean, I am not lazy, but depressed. It always seems to be there.My parents ended up putting me in the hospital in the 1980's and had gone to day treatment for 8 years, after that. i know how it is to be shy, but for some reason, maybe the new meds i was put on 3 years ago, i am more functional, I'm disable from some accidents, i used to drink but now i love my sobriety for 10 years now. I guess i choose meds over alcohol, i have few friends left since i got married as we moved away from the city here all my friends were.I find it hard to wake up in the mornings I feel very anxious then, and lazy. I am not lazy by choice but rather from schitzoaffective disorder and other problems such as depression. you re not lazy it's just one of the side affects of whatever you have going on now, maybe our overwhelmed, i feel for you i've been through it all, and i have to say you can get even a bit better, the doctors nowadays are more compassionate than in the past things are more different and they have more knowledge of pshycology. i can never thank the people enough that got me through all the things i've been through-one thing i thought i would never say-i'm getting better and i thank them more than hate them now-avlady