[grownupchild]

I know I am very lucky to have family and a husband around me who care about me very much. But I still feel very alone. I do not have any friends or people my age (29) to talk to. I have terrible social anxiety so am not in a position to make friends in real life anyway. I just wish I had people I could confide in and talk to.

I can't be the only person who feels like this?

[allimsaying]

I know the feeling. Welcome to PC!

[Opfwilllive]

Hello and welcome

I know how you feel very much
I have no friends either. I was in a relationship before and I thought I could communicate with my partner, I often felt that he wasn't really listening to me. So we broke up. (not to drop any hints)

Sometimes when i'm feeling ESPECIALLY lonely, I write to myself.
I write how my day was, who I hated what was so bad or why I think I feel bad. Then I read it over to myself and use the paper as a cage liner for my birds poop :P
Or just destroy the evidence.
Everytime I felt a little better, sometimes you are your best listener

Maybe its best that you go after a temporary pych just so you can vomit your feeling on the person.
Its often better to get face to face time with someone else. I hope you can talk to your husband about your feelings though, don't be afraid HE'S YOUR HUSBAND.

Else as a strange man on a train told me while I was reading James Baldwin...
"When you read a book, you will never be lonely"

[montanan4ever]

Howdy. I am a diehard extrovert (can talk to/socialize with just about anyone), but I don't have any real friends in "3d" either. Almost my entire social life is on the Internet. It seems lame on one hand, but on the other hand, thank heavens for cyberspace or I'd go crazy with the loneliness.

Originally Posted by grownupchild

I know I am very lucky to have family and a husband around me who care about me very much. But I still feel very alone. I do not have any friends or people my age (29) to talk to. I have terrible social anxiety so am not in a position to make friends in real life anyway. I just wish I had people I could confide in and talk to.

I can't be the only person who feels like this?

I think that you are better off than some folks on here are. At least you are better off than I am. I am much older than you (almost twice your age) and never been married with no kids. I live alone, too.

There are times when I don't mind this, but there are times when I don't like it at all. But I think it's better to be lonely alone than it is to feel lonely and be with other people. I've been there and that's a real drag. I have one good friend, but there are times when he can get on my nerves. He's married and lives quite a ways from me, so I don't see him as often as I would like.

[RJ78]

Hi grownupchild,

Thanks for sharing! I have lots of new friends and old friends, people I really connect with, and a very loving family, plus a great job. And still, I sometimes feel so alone that I become suicidal.

I've come to recognize that it's not an easy equation, i.e, it's not simply about what we have, what we don't, who loves us or who we love, etc. What we have is an illness. And it can come on anytime, under any circumstances, and learning what those circumstances are and recognizing some of the signs can be very helpful.

You're not the only who feels that lonely. I try to see the loneliness I feel, the "nobody else in the world could ever understand or feel quite as I do" loneliness as a symptom of my illness.

Hugs to you,

RJ78

[ray272727]

You are not the only one. Same as you only I have absolutly no one. I wish I knew the answer. May be some of the other replies will help you, I hope so.

[TheRealFDeal]

You've come to the right place. This is a very supportive online group.

I feel lonely all the time. I have no family support and only one friend -- who lives 3000 miles away, so our relationship is exclusively via email. I am an extreme introvert, so it's very difficult and sometimes impossible to go out and be with people. I recently forced myself to sign up for a community night class on web authoring which I'm extremely interested in. However, it's a struggle each and every class night to go. Everything in me wants to stay home, safe in my apartment. But I've managed to make every class so far just by giving myself permission to leave early if I become too anxious. And so far I've made it to the bitter end. Didn't mean to go on about that. There are still five weeks to go, so it remains to be seen whether I see it to completion.

[avlady]

Originally Posted by grownupchild

I know I am very lucky to have family and a husband around me who care about me very much. But I still feel very alone. I do not have any friends or people my age (29) to talk to. I have terrible social anxiety so am not in a position to make friends in real life anyway. I just wish I had people I could confide in and talk to.

I can't be the only person who feels like this?

I feel the same way, anxiety and other problems makes me not want to be social but would love someonne to talk to sometimes and confide in too

[avlady]

Originally Posted by TheRealFDeal

You've come to the right place. This is a very supportive online group.

I feel lonely all the time. I have no family support and only one friend -- who lives 3000 miles away, so our relationship is exclusively via email. I am an extreme introvert, so it's very difficult and sometimes impossible to go out and be with people. I recently forced myself to sign up for a community night class on web authoring which I'm extremely interested in. However, it's a struggle each and every class night to go. Everything in me wants to stay home, safe in my apartment. But I've managed to make every class so far just by giving myself permission to leave early if I become too anxious. And so far I've made it to the bitter end. Didn't mean to go on about that. There are still five weeks to go, so it remains to be seen whether I see it to completion.

WOW i find it remarkable that you go to those classes i tried a few classes they helped but never made any close ties to any of them

[Idiot17]

Feel lonely too. I have friends, but they're all from out of state. So i only Keep up with them via email. At times the Loneliness is so overwhelming that it comes to the point of suicidal, though my friends wouldn't know that.

[grownupchild]

You are all amazing Thank you so much for all the support and help. Thank you for the welcomes too. You don't know how much it meant to me this morning to come online and see your replies. Thank you so much.

I do think you might be right that it's a symptom of the illness. I know I can talk to my husband at any time and he would try his best to understand but still I feel alone.

I wish I could help every single one of you who feel alone too.

[allimsaying]

> I wish I could help every single one of you who feel alone too.

You have!

[pdoc]

I know what you mean about being lonely, I have self-isolated my self so much from friends and family that i really am alone. thats not to say that i couldnt still contact my friends and family but its just like they dont understand what im going through so i get frustrated.

So feeling lonely is really part of my life at the moment

[Khym]

I've been feeling that loneliness more and more lately. My wife is permanently in a nursing home. No kids. I've never had many friends and the ones I do have are busy with their own lives. My world was never very large and it's shrinking all the time. I think I know what you're experiencing.

[michellelvis]

Originally Posted by grownupchild

I know I am very lucky to have family and a husband around me who care about me very much. But I still feel very alone. I do not have any friends or people my age (29) to talk to. I have terrible social anxiety so am not in a position to make friends in real life anyway. I just wish I had people I could confide in and talk to.

I can't be the only person who feels like this?

Hi
Your not. Have had depression and eating disorders on and off over the last 20 years. This has worsened over bereavements etc. I recently got married, but no matter how much i love my husband i feel very much alone. I dont go out ,so friends are a no go. And the one bst friend i do have . I have not spoken to for over a year.