[shortandcute]

My son is 25 and is still living at home; he struggles with severe depression. My daughter is 17 and still has another year to go b4 she is old enough to leave home and is very strong willed and impatient with me. I don't feel like I can take care of our pets anymore. And I still haven't been given a court date for my disability hearing. I'm tired of this.....

[CharactorAssassin]

You could try superfoods. There's a documentary called hungry for change. Has to do with nutrition.
Have a look at nutrition for mental health. I've got some results with certain foods.

[Leed]

Hi Short&Cute! I'm sorry you're dealing with all of this. I know how it can cause stress.

You need to URGE your son to go to the doctor about his depression!!! He can't just live there and lay around, doing nothing about his depression. He's got to talk to his doctor, and either be referred to a therapist, or get on an antidepressant. Doing NOTHING is not an option. HE will feel better and YOU will be better able to deal with the situation. After he feels better he will be able to get a JOB.

Your daughter needs to learn RESPECT. Girls at 17 can be very disrespectful. Sometimes they learn this behavior at school from other girls, and sometimes it seems to be the hormones raging. But they can be very hard to deal with. My own granddaughter was living here for a time, and SHE became disrespectful, and she was NOT brought up like that, believe me!!! We put her in therapy, because for one thing she ASKED to go, which surprised me. But another she had alot of issues that needed taking care of, and now a year and a half later, she's still in therapy.

Tell your daughter that you : EXPECT RESPECT. YOU EXPECT NOTHING MORE BUT WILL ACCEPT NOTHING LESS. She should be old enough to understand this! If she refuses to give you the respect you deserve as her mother, then ground her, take away all her "extras" like her phone, music system if she has one, car keys, etc. Tell her she can get a job and earn the money to BUY these things herself. Tell her that until she can learn about respect, she cannot have these things back, and you don't mean just a day or two of "yes mother." It had better be a few weeks of respect. You're just not going to TAKE it anymore!

If you don't take a firm stand with her, she's going to have trouble in the "outside" world when it comes to dealing with authority figures. When she gets a job, and her boss gives her an order or whatever and she starts mouthing off, she's going to get fired in a heartbeat!

I wish you the very best. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee

[Hellion]

Originally Posted by Leed

You need to URGE your son to go to the doctor about his depression!!! He can't just live there and lay around, doing nothing about his depression. He's got to talk to his doctor, and either be referred to a therapist, or get on an antidepressant. Doing NOTHING is not an option. HE will feel better and YOU will be better able to deal with the situation. After he feels better he will be able to get a JOB.

Or SSI if the therapy and/or anti-depressants don't work...that might help reduce the financial strain if that's an issue. Just want to point that out since living at home in ones 20s isn't always a case of doing nothing I mean I have tried anti-depressants and therapy and I am still stuck living in my moms house and I feel bad having to depend on her still. I'd probably feel even worse if she was really struggling with too much stress but she's doing pretty alright

take it a step futher, Remove her bedroom door.
I had seen this on Scared Straight that first episode for
that one preachers daughter who kept getting into trouble.
I'm sorry but taking away her "toys" will do little good, I grew up
with girls like these & all they do is laugh.
I would contact any agencies like social services to get suggestions.
Also keep a watchful eye on her bedroom window.
Why?
I was young once and one thing I know for sure? No matter what the generation? All teens love sneaking out that bedroom window.
I know I was young once & I also had friends that did this.
You must let your 17 year old know that YOU DON'T PLAY.
I hope this helps.
Also when you feel ready head to your nearest family counseling center for yourself to get some resolution for whats going on at home.
I wish you all the best.
Keep me posted my friend!

[CharactorAssassin]

Love not control.
You won't be giving up loving your children will you?