[kitsune_girl]

I don't really expect many people to read through this whole thing, but I'll post anyway. So I'm in my second semester of college. I met two people in my history class and we became friends. I'll label one of the girls "L" and the other "T". Well for the first few weeks I talked to L a lot since she sat in the middle of us. We even got together once and studied for a test. After awhile she asked to switch seats with T. The story is kind of long, but it was for a good reason I guess. It didn't have anything to do with us being mad or anything though.

So after she switched seats I started talking to T more since she was now sitting in the middle. Since I knew both of them at this time I wanted to talk to both of them though, but I noticed L started to ignore me somewhat. She never says hello to me anymore when she comes in. Only to T and she never walks with me after class anymore (we both have to go the same direction after the class). Today we were leaving class at the same time and I was about to start talking to her, but she immediately started a conversation with this girl she doesn't even know and we end up not walking together once again. I'm starting to think she did it to avoid walking with me.

I probably seem creepy right now. Like I'm obsessed or something, but she really reminds me of a precious friend I lost touch with a long time ago. Also she was so nice to me when we first met. I could talk to her easily and that's rare for me when meeting people for the first time. I'm pretty shy.

Anyway my mom passed away a few days ago. I meant to text my aunt to tell her she had died, but I texted L instead. I apologized for texting the wrong number, but she never said anything back. Now I'm starting to think maybe she's making fun of it or something. Or would it be weird for her to text back? I'm so embarrassed and I don't want to see her in class Thursday. Do you think maybe I'm being paranoid about this whole thing of her ignoring me? Sorry if my story isn't too clear. If you read through this whole thing, thank you.

[kitsune_girl]

Oh and the whole reason I'm so upset about this is because I'm afraid of being abandoned by people. It's happened a lot during my lifetime and I don't think I could handle it happening again.

[optimize990h]

kitsune girl, don't worry.. You have a good heart. Even though it's just the net, we are pleased you are back, not that we have work on something, here.

[optimize990h]

I very sorry about your recent loss

[optimize990h]

I think you have reason to wonder a small amount because you apologized for your error.We can' t speculate too much about why she did not say anything when you apologized. You just need a little more confidence in yourself and not put yourself down.

If you can read her body language, try to confirm it. Just rehearse out loud if can. Something like" L. I value our friendship and wanted to make sure the text mistake bothered you in anyway. It's not my intention to cause any misgivings from my mistake about the text and wreck our friendship".

It's best if you could speak to her alone.

That's my suggestion, you change the whole thing if you want.

Maybe she does not know what to say with the news of your mother's death.

And I offer my condolences to you and your family.

I went over what you wrote about her behaviour....I see why you had the feelings you discussed.

What I suggested above, may not the only choice. Other PC members will be around to tender their reaction to your post.

[kitsune_girl]

Originally Posted by optimize990h

I think you have reason to wonder a small amount because you apologized for your error.We can' t speculate too much about why she did not say anything when you apologized. You just need a little more confidence in yourself and not put yourself down.

If you can read her body language, try to confirm it. Just rehearse out loud if can. Something like" L. I value our friendship and wanted to make sure the text mistake bothered you in anyway. It's not my intention to cause any misgivings from my mistake about the text and wreck our friendship".

It's best if you could speak to her alone.

That's my suggestion, you change the whole thing if you want.

Maybe she does not know what to say with the news of your mother's death.

And I offer my condolences to you and your family.

I went over what you wrote about her behaviour....I see why you had the feelings you discussed.

What I suggested above, may not the only choice. Other PC members will be around to tender their reaction to your post.

Thank you for the response. It was helpful! And sorry for the long post. To most people it's probably pointless and laughable, but a lot has happened this week and when I'm depressed pretty much everything gets to me and I get paranoid.

[Patoman04]

Originally Posted by kitsune_girl

Thank you for the response. It was helpful! And sorry for the long post. To most people it's probably pointless and laughable, but a lot has happened this week and when I'm depressed pretty much everything gets to me and I get paranoid.

Oh college.... Its a place full of drama, just like high school. You don't realize it until you get out of it tho. I'm deeply sorry for your loss. If you want to talk to anyone, pm me. I struggle with the same sort of thing in school. I'll be friendly and open (even though I'm really shy) and people will respond for a while, and then end up avoiding me because of my over-friendliness. Its a terrible feeling when someone doesnt like you. I'm sorry that you feel she is avoiding you. If it bothers you too much, ask her in private if she has a problem with you. It would be easy to tell that way. Don't let her drag you along while you wonder whether or not you can call her a friend. It sounds like you've hit quite a rough patch. Hang in there! You'll make it!

[Alprazolam]

I know how you feel. Very few people are capable of handling me. They'll find me entertaining at first, but once the novelty wears off the communication stops. Luckily(?) I have a great deal of trouble with social situations and tend to prefer being alone anyway. Still, nobody likes to be rejected. If you're really interested in why those girls are ignoring you, ask them...but don't take their opinions to heart. You are who you are. If they cannot accept you, that is *their* problem, not yours.