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Apr 12, 2013, 04:26 PM
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Hello everybody, I have been of for about 7 weeks of work due to my depression and I was just wondering how I'm going to handle it. I'm so stressed out about it that I start to cry about it. Work for me was very stressful and when I was there last I was crying and I was a complete mess. I don't mean to sound ungrateful as I am lucky to have a job in Ireland with the way things are here and indeed, all over the world. What am I going to do, I have to go back at some point but when is the right time to go. As I'm writing this I'm filling up. I can't sleep at night thinking about this.I mentioned this to my therapist and she was baffled as to why I was so stressed about it. Please Help.
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Apr 12, 2013, 04:49 PM
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Pierro, it is easy to understand being severely distressed over returning to work you experienced as stressful, particularly when you may not be emotionally ready. Why was this work stressful for you in the first place - the work itself, the physical environment, coworkers, management, etc.?
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Apr 12, 2013, 05:58 PM
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Apr 12, 2013, 07:32 PM
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Apr 12, 2013, 08:34 PM
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Hi Pierro,
Gosh, sorry to hear this. It is stressful to think about going back! I like the above suggestion of gradual return. For me, any little change or feeling hemmed in, like I have to be somewhere doing something specific makes me more stressed. Especially because I don't like to be around people much right now. It is great you have a job, that's true. (I wish I did, still can't find one!) I'm able to find the occasional odd job right now like housecleaning. It's really good because I don't feel hemmed in and I don't have to be around people day after day, and I can cry. I think you have no choice but to go back, right? Can you accept that? Just, I'm going back. And then take it from there. In reality, you don't know what it will be like when you go back. What was stressful for you before, the whole work situation itself? I'm willing to be an ear if you'd like to strategize anything to make the day easier when you go back, maybe having a plan for how you will handle it would help? Would definitely like to hear how it goes for you. Much luck...and hugs |
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Apr 13, 2013, 04:31 AM
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Thanks for all your replies, its great to look from a different angle. I could go back on a 3 day week. Its just working full time with 3 children. I know I shouldn't give out I know, its very stressfull. Afain, Many Thanks.
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Apr 14, 2013, 07:44 AM
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Hi hun…firstly, I feel for you, it is so hard to return to work when you have been out and then all the stress associated with going back and how you will cope.
A 3 day wk sounds good if you could get it? Do you feel able to return to work? Also, I am sad to hear your therapist was baffled…that really leaves me dumbfounded… When I had to leave work I couldn't return…even when I had to go in and give psych letters etc I actually physically got sick beforehand every time. Unfortunately, I never returned…it was great paying job, had just finished my first degree (needed to see the counsellors the whole time in College ). But I can't change the past…wish I could. I have been on disability since then…I did return to College again years later and did another degree…with the help of Disability Support Services again. I haven't been able to work, I was inpatient in psych unit during the most recent degree…so finished later than everyone else. I applied for some Masters but sure there is not a hope I be able… Sorry, I ranted in this reply. It takes a lot to return to work and I really hope your therapist or someone can help you.
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Apr 14, 2013, 06:49 PM
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Hello--
I understand you need to work full time. I'm not sure what the disability law is there. In the USA there are protections for disability. Mental illness is covered. We can make reasonable accommodations request. Ur therapist sounds clueless. She can't understand ur fear b/c she can't relate. But if she knew enough abt ur condition she would understand. I understand ur fears. I haven't worked in a yr and I'm abt to return to the workforce. I wish you luck and send you a big hug.
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