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May 10, 2013, 10:11 AM
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Yesterday me and my boyfriend got into a huge fight. I went to leave and he got up off his bed to try and shut the door and tripped and accidentally punched my in the eye. He didn't mean to and I know he didn't, but I was in an abusive relationship before and I guess the impact just really scared me. After it happened I was bawling my eyes out and he picked me up and layed me on the bed and he was cuddling with me and trying to get me to calm down. I wasn't scared of him I was just scared because when it happened I saw flash backs from my previous relationship. He keeps saying he's really sorry and I keep telling him its okay. I just don't know how to make him believe that I'm not mad, upset, or scared of him. *SIGH*
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May 10, 2013, 11:08 AM
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You poor thing. Just what you needed -- a black eye.
 Have you told him about the flash-backs and how THOSE make you feel? If not, you had better. Tell him the whole story. Tell him about the abuse, and how you feel NOW about it. Tell him that the 'punch in the eye" made you go back to that point in time, and it wasn't pretty. Tell him that flash-backs are scary, and that if he has never had one, he just won't understand.Then just reiterate that you're not mad, you're not upset with him -- you just had a hard time with the flash-back. Ask him to just be patient, and you'll get over it. In the meantime, put some ice on that poor eye. lol  And wear sunglasses. You don't want people thinking that HE did it. Jeez, people never believe the REAL story of a black eye. LOL God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee 
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#3
May 10, 2013, 11:41 AM
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Its actually not black and blue, Thank God!! Just sore. He knows about the abuse and that's why he was really upset and comforting after it happened.
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May 10, 2013, 02:45 PM
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Flashbacks are no fun.
 Did you go through therapy, after your past abusive relationships? I have had my fair share. [both the abusive relationship(s) and therapy]How long have you and your boyfriend been together? Glad to hear he was comforting and apologetic and that you don't have a black eye. How are you feeling, today? |
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May 14, 2013, 03:42 PM
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Yes I do go to therapy.
We've been together for a year and a half. And I'm doing really good today! Thanks
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