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#1
Aug 22, 2006, 02:06 PM
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<font color="purple"> </font> I have been dealing with depression/anxiety and panic for about 5 years. I know that when I am having a bad spell, it is difficult on my husband. I do not think he really understand my illness though. I have tried to explain to him what it is and how it affects me. recently I have been unable to work, and am barely getting out of bed in the morning. I am under the supervision of a physician, but he thinks things should move on quicker. I also think he belives I have the power to snap out of this. What can I do to make him understand? Is there literature or web sites I can direct him to? Is there a support group for him where he can vent his frustrations and get education and advice on his wife?
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Aug 22, 2006, 02:39 PM
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i am sorry your husband doesnt understand what you are going through, maybe he could acompany you to vist your doctor so he can hear from a doctor what depression is about, my husband didnt understand untill he became ill with depression
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Aug 22, 2006, 03:54 PM
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Try searching for articles for him to read.
Here's one http://www.psychcentral.com/library/id233.html |
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Aug 22, 2006, 06:15 PM
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If this was me I would buy the workbook Mind over Mood by Denis Greenberger; PHD and Christine A Padesky,PHD and leave it around the house and when doing some of the activities don't hide that you are using present day problems ofr the thought records and so on. You can even invite him to help you or ask him to do the depression inventory and anxiety inventory. One time through those inventorys and he will realize depression isn't jusst a matter of being sad and getting over it. Depression effects all areas of a persons life. He will get the point very quickly if he is anything like a friends significant other. He may even recognize some depression feelings and situations of his own.
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Aug 23, 2006, 03:27 AM
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I sympathize with the difficulty of finding anyone with a true understanding of your situation who isn't similarly afflicted.
I'm afraid I have even known those who might possibly be more messed up than I who still didn't understand, as you or I would, the difficulties involved, and the impossibility of simply "getting over it." It's unfortunate, but common, if that makes you fell any better. However, I think you have the right idea. Education is the way to go. Get as much material in front of him as you can and see to it he reads it. Just my 2 cents... Good luck, take care.
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Aug 23, 2006, 10:24 AM
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OMG! I just bought that workbook (mind over mood). I have found it very helpful so far, but I am in the begining stages of using it. it is difficult to do some of those exercises, positive thinking is much harder than negative....thanks, I am really encouraged now that I got it.
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Aug 23, 2006, 10:27 AM
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Jennie- thanks so much for the article...I have just emailed him with it...it is just what I needed...and gave some helpful advice to him on how to handle the stress with dealing with me.
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Aug 23, 2006, 07:45 PM
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You're welcome and yea some of those activities are hard. hang in there.
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Aug 27, 2006, 12:29 PM
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How about fasting for a day or two? Hunger has some of the psychic and physical pain of depression. When he gets desparate, ask him how it would be to feel this for weeks/months/years on end with little or no hope for relief.
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Aug 27, 2006, 03:12 PM
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Hi Grace:
I'm sorry to hear of your situation. I would be happy to recommend some resources, because I am in the same situation as your husband, which is in fact how I found PC. Depression is a big stressful mystery for those who don't feel it, and I can empathize with the confusion that your husband must feel. However, with compassion and education, it is possible to learn to understand the internal struggles that depression causes. The education doesn't solve the frustration, but it does make it a little easier on the relationship. Anyway, please PM me if you would like to talk more. If your husband is open to seeking a support group for himself, we can discuss that as well.  LMo
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#11
Aug 27, 2006, 04:39 PM
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I'm sorry that you are faced with your husband not understanding. I have been there and things didn't turn out so well with me which makes me glad to see that your husband may at least be willing to try and be educated on depression. My husband put me into a hospital 2 hours from my children because I woudn't "snap out of it" and stop trying to "embarrass him" in our small town by not leaving the house or not wanting to get out of bed. I went into the hospital because he threatened to take my kids away from me. I gave in and ended up being forced into ECT before he would "allow" me to come home. After a few weeks of that kind of treatment and I was willing to agree to anything he wanted if he would just let me come home. Pretty pathetic I know. That was several years ago and we have now been divorced for 5 years and my youngest just left for college a week ago so I am now all alone and having a very hard time pulling myself out of this depression. Which is how I found this website. Good luck!
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