[BrunetteBabe1005]

Let me say first that I am 20 years old, and have no friends. I felt like I was always a adult, I never had a childhood or a teenhood, and it's because I never had friends or did anything. I never went to parties, or anything, but I do know alot of people, but they only call me when they want something. I have gone to some parties and absolutely love the party lifestyle. Anyways I made contacts, but they don;t call or text me back, so I am sick of trying with people. But

This guy that worked for my dad's construction company was a relief in my life. He was so funny, cute and I just loved being around him. It was a nice change for me, cause I am around a bunch of boring people that dooesn't want to do anything. Well I found out through some of the people I know, and my cousins that Sam is a bad guy. He does Cocaine, and is a Alcoholic, he also beat the crap out of his ex a year ago, and he is Bipolar. I ignored all of that cause of my desperation for friends. I knew he was bad news, but I still wanted to hang out with him cause I am so desperate to have fun.

I don't want a boyfriend. I just want friends, and I thought of him as a source to my social life. However, he started to portray weird behavior. He was obsessed with my dad, he would say all the time that my dad is his dad ,and he even said one time "C'mon Bob be nice to me, I'm your new son" "I am the oldest son so I control the radio" Me and my brother thought nothing of it other than it was funny to us. Sam lost his dad 3 years ago to cancer, and his dad was a cocaine user and a alcoholic, plus his dad was verbally and mentally abusive to him, so I felt bad, cause he was seeking a father figure in my dad, cause my dad is a very caring, good, loving father that doesn't do drugs or drink. He also started to become obsessive with me. He would question my where abouts, and when I was sleeping in the living room, Sam came in and said "Who were you with last night?" He tried to whip my blanket off of me, and was taking pics of me. He then said "Whos **** were you sucking?" He creeped me out, but I was letting it go cause I am so desperate.

Well, everytime I went out with Sam he would try to kiss me, have sex with me, and ask me out, but I just wanted to be friends with him. He seemed to have loved our family, and my dad invited him to alot of events. Well tables turned. Sam posted on Facebook that he was going to work tomorrow, and my dad told my mom to tell him that he doesn't need him for Saturday and that he needs him Monday and that whole week. Well Sam got reallly really mad, He said "I am done with Bob, I hate his guts" "He just doesn't want to give me$130 he cheaped me out of work, and I thought he was friend" "My feelings are hurt, he's a piece of ****" "I hope he fukin dies!" "Good luck to you all" He then texted my brother saying he had hurt feelings and that he hates my dad and that he won't work for him ever again. All because my dad didn't use him for 1 day he acts like this? He think in his head that my dad is maliciously not using him, when my dad just didn't need help that day. Sam defriended my mom on facebook, when she was the one that was being nice and fair and even apologized to him, but yet he defriends my mom. He's 26 btw.

I am stupid, and I am sickened. I hate myself for this. I hate that I want friends so much that I am blind to who they really are. I had so much fun with Sam when we all would go out, and it's sad it turned this way, and I don't understand it at all. He goes from loving my dad to death to now absolutely hating him and wishing he dies. It disgusts me. I thought Sam really liked my family and me, cause he showed me attention. I can't find a friend for the life of me, and here I thought Sam was my friend, and I thought of the potential social life that would come of it. I hate myself. I am extremely depressed, cause I am so blind because of desperation for friends and fun. Any thoughts on why he flipped his lid like that? And any suggestions for me? Thank you so much for reading! I greatly appreciate it!

[lynn P.]

Sorry you're upset over this man. Is this the same guy named Jake who ripped the blanket off you, took pics and asked you "who's c*** you were sucking?"
http://forums.psychcentral.com/relat...-confused.html

If this is the same guy, it may be better to keep this on one thread. This guy sounds like bad news and its better not to be involved with him. If he's saying things like this about your dad, he should consider letting him go. He's too pushy invading and a loose canon. He shouldn't be getting involved with your family personally. It could be you were drawn to him because he was outgoing and in control but this is backfiring now.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Originally Posted by lynn P.

Sorry you're upset over this man. Is this the same guy named Jake who ripped the blanket off you, took pics and asked you "who's c*** you were sucking?"
http://forums.psychcentral.com/relat...-confused.html

If this is the same guy, it may be better to keep this on one thread. This guy sounds like bad news and its better not to be involved with him. If he's saying things like this about your dad, he should consider letting him go. He's too pushy invading and a loose canon. He shouldn't be getting involved with your family personally. It could be you were drawn to him because he was outgoing and in control but this is backfiring now.

Yeah it is the same guy! Sorry I use so many fake names to protect his identity that I can't keep up, but yeah it's him. My dad seriously doesn't want anything to do with him, and neither do I , but I am just hurting cause reality is really setting in about this guy, and I am just upset about the fact that he is such a bad guy when I liked going out with him and doing things with him.

[lynn P.]

Does this guy still work for your dad? Yes sometimes we're drawn to people who end up being bad for us. If this guy is pushy like this now, imagine how bad it would be if you both were deeply involved. You don't want a BF who watches you like a parent. Take this as learning lesson and watch out for red flags. Even your parents thought he was okay in the beginning, so don't feel bad. Sometimes charismatic, pushy types often end up turning negative.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Originally Posted by lynn P.

Does this guy still work for your dad? Yes sometimes we're drawn to people who end up being bad for us. If this guy is pushy like this now, imagine how bad it would be if you both were deeply involved. You don't want a BF who watches you like a parent. Take this as learning lesson and watch out for red flags. Even your parents thought he was okay in the beginning, so don't feel bad. Sometimes charismatic, pushy types often end up turning negative.

No he doesn't work for my dad now cause he disrespected my dad, and said vicious things. But, like I said I don't want him as a BF I just wanted him as a friend cause I knew I could have fun with him and I did. It just sucks to know that fun is short lived and severed now, and I just have to move on. I know it's his fault why it's severed, he has mental issues, and is blowing things out of per portion. Yeah, it's really hurting me knowing I will never see him again. I know I will get over it, cause time heals, but it's just so hard now, I am really depressed, and I just feel like I am hurt. I am fed up with life, and trying to make friends when I just end up getting hurt. It hurts. Thanks you so much Lynn P. for answering I do appreciate it! Thank you for being so kind!

[lynn P.]

You're welcome ((BrunetteBabe1005)) and sorry this is disappointing for you. Its seems this man was probably charismatic which bought your hopes up but then turned nasty. You sound like a good hearted person and unfortunately this attracts the wrong kind of men sometimes. All we can do is learn from these experiences and be wise for next time. I hope you meet a nice man one day and find more dependable friends.