[nicolerose]

i am ugly and i blame my mother for this because in my opinion she is decent looking but she married my father, who is very ugly. (flat, wide face, flat nose with nostrils showing, small eyes, bad bone structure, balding, etc.) but my mother was chased by other guys. she could have married a random guy off the street and things would have turned out better.

i am angry at her that she did this to me, that she did not think about how this would affect her children.
my looks have caused me a lot of pain in my life, ive gone through already two plastic surgeries on my face, and still there are much more things to be done
i know that i am unattractive, some people might try to say something like its inner beauty that matters but this just means that i am not beautiful on the outside..

the thing is that i feel like my mother is attractive, like she has a good bone structure, high cheekbones, defined nose, and big round eyes, good hairline, but i did not get her genes.. id rate her a 7 or 8 on looks and my dad a 2.. like if you can imagine an ugly old man that would be my dad (sorry..)

i know that.. she had a difficult life and maybe in the circumstances she did her best and maybe without marrying my dad i would not even have been born but i do not think that its fair that she did this to me and that i have to live with all this pain over my appearance when she could have prevented it

it relaly bothers mea nd when i think about it it makes me hate her

does nayone else feel this way?

[Leed]

I think I understand what you mean, but I don't hate my mother. I had 3 sisters, One is now deceased. Out of the 4 of us, 2 were very good looking, and 2 were kind of "blah." I'm one of the "blah" ones. I have a long nose, small mouth, high cheekbones, fairly large brown eyes. It sounds like a turkey, doesn't it! LOL My mother was a beauty in her younger days. My dad was very handsome too, even as he grew older. I just didn't happen to get good genes for some reason. My younger sister and I look alot alike, and she's very pretty, but she's put together better than I am. lol It doesn't take much to make it look better - maybe a 1/4 inch shorter nose, or just a bit wider mouth. But she was HOmecoming Queen at school, while I never dated!

But I did get married and had 2 kids, who are both gorgeous, thank God.

So don't hate your Mom. Genes have a funny way of putting us together. God bless you and please take care. Hugs, Lee

[A_Space_Between]

I hear you loud and clear. I have average looking parents, and an average brother who is 1.yrs older than me. Then, WHOOPS! I came along, and: "oh looky, it's deformed!" (Craniostenosis, partial cleft palate, open bite, over bite, eyes too wide apart...all this to say I'm legitimately not kidding when I use the term "deformed.")

I've had multiple reconstructive plastic surgeries. Still ugly. Better than I was though, especially in terms of jaw functioning & bite.

But, nope, no apology from parents for doing this to me or keeping me here. I don't even think they think it was wrong to do...

But, if I ever had kids, and one turned out like me, it would definitely be abortion time. I know how much I've suffered, and I wouldn't want someone else to go through that just because of my selfishness (ahem...I mean 'parental love').

[AV747]

Many not very nice people outwardly are very charming and sociable. People rarely falls into the physical appearance of the other person. Usually we will be impressed by the energy of another person, his charm, his personality, interests, a style of life. Appearance is just a shell, sometimes chocolate in a very beautiful package just disgusting to the taste of chocolate in unmarked packaging, such as delicious as the kiss of God. Don't blame the parents, if they are not met, you had not been born. And if your mother married another man, it would have been born the other person, but not you. Good luck! Believe that you will find yourself and you will cease to worry.

[Frank100]

yes I feel the same way I actually had a conversation with my mom about this before. My mom is rather pretty but my dad is ugly and of course I take after my dad. I'd say I'm worse than my dad looks wise because it seems I got all the bad genes from both side of the family. At least my dad has clear skin while I struggled with severe acne and now severe acne scars.

Another thing that gets to me is that my mom admitted she only married my dad to get out of a bad home situation. She said she didn't really love him through out her marriage with my dad but she tried hard too.

As a child I remember my own mom calling me ugly and said I look like my dad. I have had a rough life due to my looks.

[AV747]

I would like to give you a piece of my love! I want to hug you to squeeze all these thoughts about your ugliness!

[AbcXyzMan]

I really dont find looks important. We're all unique physically. Just try to stay healthy.
A good, honest personality draws more interests from me than a smoking hot bimbo.

[winter4me]

Ah, but had your mother married someone else, you would not be here. Your genes are 50/50. She would have had a different child.
And, we live in an appearance is all kind of world right now, but it just ain't so.

[nicolerose]

Originally Posted by winter4me

Ah, but had your mother married someone else, you would not be here. Your genes are 50/50. She would have had a different child.
And, we live in an appearance is all kind of world right now, but it just ain't so.

if she had married someone else i would just have different genes. so that child would be "me" just with a different father and genes, id rather take my chances with that live than the one i have now

and she wasnt even in love with my father.

[Frank100]

Originally Posted by nicolerose

if she had married someone else i would just have different genes. so that child would be "me" just with a different father and genes, id rather take my chances with that live than the one i have now

and she wasnt even in love with my father.

Technically you would always be your fathers daughter because you were one of his sperm if that makes sense. Doesn't matter who the mother would of been.

edit: and by the way this is something I always think about too, I would always be my dads son and have his genetics.

[possum220]

nicole if........... you have to blame some-one for this blame your father he is the ugly one. But I dont suggest you blame your father. You anger over your looks will turn you into a bitter person. Bad attitude more ugly. Its a crap shoot for all of us with the genes we get from out parents. So many things are determined by genes.... intelligence... talents.... personality traits etc.

Years ago I met a person who wasnt pretty. But her attitude to life and the laughter that came from within her was truly beautiful.

If you are so tortured by how you look go to a beautician and see what make-up would help or what might be something you good to to enhance the good features you do have.

Look in the mirror and smile. A hateful attitude is ugly. Who wants frown lines as well.

[winter4me]

and, no, that child would not be YOU, that child would be someone else. (study up a bit on genetics)
You make your own impressions with how you feel about yourself, and how you express yourself; even the physically beautiful can be ugly people. And the physically "ugly" (a very subjective societal and personal judgement) absolutely Gorgeous.

[Lab_Rat]

Mine is a little different. My mother is a pretty women and I look just like her. That is my personal torture. She is mentally ill and an extremely hateful person. I haven't spoken to her in 12 yrs. she is toxic to me. My kids don't know her. I got my dads traits. Aloof and emotionally unavailable. So everyday I look in the mirror I see my mother who has made my life hell. Her whole side of the family is that way too. Apparently we have a very toxic gene pool.

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