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I find that I have lost some trust in my psychologist because she didn't help me to catch this latest spiral down into severe depression and anxiety again. Is it fair to hold your therapist responsible in this way?

Truthfully, before this hit this time I thought I was doing great, so that's what I said in therapy sessions. I was working almost non-stop, disconnecting from myself and my family. And she was just reflecting back what I was telling her. I guess I looked pretty good at the time. Then it hit, all of the sudden, hard and fast. I always spiral down super fast, within a day or two. And that's what happened.

Does anyone have any thoughts or experiences on what happened to me or on what is fair to ask of a therapist as far as your depression goes? Are my expectations unrealistic? (That's an issue I have so they may be.)

[gayleggg]

You didn't say if you are bipolar or not, but if you are yes it is possible for it to spiral down before anyone can predict it. With what you said you had been telling you therapist everything was fine. There was no way for her to know that you would spiral down. Even if you aren't bipolar things can spiral down so fast even you can see it coming on. I think you are a little unrealistic in blaming your therapist for not noticing. Hope you get to feeling better soon.
Gayle

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Sounds like you were giving your therapist positive feedback about how you were doing so she was as surprised as you about the downward spiral. Yes, she may have known it was possible but was buoyed with hope by you that you were on an upward path. Would you have preferred, instead of echoing how great you were doing, that she questioned whether this was really true, like she wasn't believing you?

I wouldn't blame it on her--but let her help you pick up the pieces and get back to where you were....