[jean17]

It's all my fault that my entire family is now the victim of this beast. I was warned a hundred times by a hundred different people, but, oh no, I had to dismiss them all and marry the creature. Now he haunts us. Never does anything illegal. Just circles on the outskirts of our lives and it's ALL MY FAULT. There is nothing that I can do to make it right again. I can't make him leave us alone. I've talked to the police and, like I said, he never does anything illegal. There is nothing I can do. I feel an overwhelming sense of guilt that no amount of apologizing will ever make up for.

[gayleggg]

Hugs to you. I'm sorry you have found no help though the system. But I do understand. My daughter was stalked by an ex-boyfiend and the police could do nothing. Try not to blame yourself too much. You didn't intend any harm, you followed your heart instead of listening to others. Hope he gets tired of it soon.

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by jean17

Never does anything illegal.

Not yet. Even beasts are not perfect...

How long has he been doing this and what is it that he does when he 'circles'? Perhaps he is having trouble getting over the break up is can't seem to cope the right way just yet. You being upset over his unsettling actions is understandable though. Hopefully things will turn around for you.

[Clara22]

I am so sorry, Jean17, it is difficult to understand the importance of our lovers' mental health problems not only because we are in love with them but also because they manipulate us. They play this game almost perfectly: we get trapped thinking it is not that bad, it is fixable, etc., etc. Nowadays I feel very guilty as well because of the mental health of my brother. being overseas I have not perceived the size of his behavior problems. I underestimated them and in consequence advised my mom wrongly. Now we all are suffering the consequences. Of course, my advice is not the only cause of the current status, but I could have helped better. There is nothing I can do about the past, though. I can just deal with the present moment. I am not feeling too confident right now, i feel a heavy stone on my shoulders. I feel like you, and I wish you the best. Still, we have to believe that something different, better, will happen. And that we will be wiser, inspired, stronger to take advantages of opportunities. There are opportunities out of there, opportunities to solve problems, but sometimes we do not take advantage of them, hope we can see these opportunities coming in the near future.A hug

[Pierro]

You didn't know the situation was going to turn out like it has. You just let your heart rule your head and we are all guilty of that from time to time. Best Wishes Jean.