What's the use

nothemama8 · Oct 03, 2006, 08:25 AM

of posting to ppl when they have favorites that they answer, I've been up for 3 hrs now , and am pretty sure my feels are crummy cuz I'm crashing, but still if ya post it's nice to be replied back to, guess I'm still second class to some What's the use

Fuzzybear · Oct 03, 2006, 08:37 AM

I know what you mean hon, that kinda crap can really suck.......I don't think many people here are like that .... but sometimes just a few can be enough to hurt a LOT when we are feeling vulnerable What's the use

((((((((((((( Angie )))))))))))))))

Oct 03, 2006, 08:41 AM

Yep, that's true enough.

Oct 03, 2006, 09:08 AM

Don't take it personally. People may be busy getting ready for their days & not even be on-line. Some of my posts disappear without any replies. I just have to remind myself that these people have busy lives & issues they are dealing with & cannot always "be there" for little old (52) me!--Suzy

nothemama8 · Oct 03, 2006, 09:26 AM

Thanks Fuzzy and Always, I knew you'd understand

nothemama8 · Oct 03, 2006, 09:27 AM

Suzy, the person can answer other ppl but rarely answers me, this is disrespect in my eyes
Thanks for caring

Fuzzybear · Oct 03, 2006, 09:57 AM

Angie! I completely agree with you! I don't know your situation (I don't go through all the posts here with a fine toothed comb) but I feel DISRESPECTED when some answer others but not me..... how much does it take to post a simple hug or good wish??? To me, someone does not need to be a "friend" for me to be able to wish them well, and to EXPRESS that, as a fellow human being What's the use

I just do not understand some people What's the use

And yes, eventually I do stop posting to the person who has been ignoring me..... and so the cycle of negativity and hurt continues What's the use

Monty_girl · Oct 03, 2006, 10:09 AM

Angie, sorry you feel like this. I understand too well what your saying.

Fuzzybear · Oct 03, 2006, 10:11 AM

((((((((((( Monty )))))))))))) I think the "truth" is, sometimes it isn't personal, but sometimes it is....... especially if it is someone who used to reply What's the use

ggggggggggrrrrrrrr
Fuzzy

Fuzzybear · Oct 03, 2006, 10:15 AM

I think this thread shows very well how people are triggered by different things, and that ALL triggers should be respected What's the use

There is no Superior Race, Superior Posters here.... and if they think they are.... well imo, they are quite the opposite What's the use

Going back to my cold, dark, hole, where no doubt I belong What's the use

Monty_girl · Oct 03, 2006, 10:20 AM

Yep Fuzzy that's it and it can hurt a lot. I know that we should all try not to take it personally, but that's hard to do. It hurts a lot. Just wanted you all to know I feel the same way at times.

Fuzzybear · Oct 03, 2006, 10:28 AM

Monty, sometimes trying to reply to others can help, even if only with a hug.....

But then, if the person'people who you feel have been ignoring you still ignore you.... well, it hurts even more What's the use

Oct 03, 2006, 10:29 AM

Exactly, that's the word... disrespectful. As if you and/or your opinion don't count. Not to mention that it hurts & as a result makes people refrain from posting etc.

Fuzzybear · Oct 03, 2006, 10:34 AM

DISRESPECTFUL..... exactly!!! What's the use

Although in my case, being the perverse bear that I am, I sometimes post MORE..... heh..

But still it hurts What's the use

darkeyes · Oct 03, 2006, 11:18 AM

(((((((( nothemama ))))))))))
That happens to me, but then I realize many people may not know what to say?
So often, people may be so in need of support themselves, that they feel they may not or are unable to find any supportive words to offer in a reply.
I'm not saying your point is wrong, it may exist, and yeah I feel so often that my taking the time to support/give info may be wasted, cause there are plenty of times I do not get any response back,but others replying saying almost the same stuff,will have a reply made to them in return.
It's very easy to say, "what's the use", I totally agree.
Don't let this sway you away from those who really care for you and appreciate the time you give of yourself.

Oct 03, 2006, 11:31 AM

i agree nothemama8, ive posted a post to which i have no responses, and it does hurt. i just try not to let it offend me, but that in itself is easier said than done.

i, personally, try to get through every post on this site, and some posts i read i feel i dont need to respond, because what i want to say has already been said, so i feel i would be wasting eevryones time by responding. but i never ignore anyone. i have no grudges here and i like to think its the same with everyone. that would be a naive thing to think im sure but thats what i think.

your input to PC is remarkable, and i gain alot of knowledge by reading your posts, so i hope you continue it.

it is hard when you feel invisible to people here, i did go through that stage, but i hit a point when i thought "why bother, i have people here that will always reply who i know i can trust". in my eyes, every reply to a post of mine is valued, i never expect many replies, so each one is important to me. do you see what i mean by this. i hope so, its hard to explain.

well i hope you feel better soon and i hope you realise that you are very respected and valued here, by me for one.

simon

Oct 03, 2006, 11:51 AM

((( Angie )))

I care. What's the use

(JD) · Oct 03, 2006, 05:03 PM

((((((big hug)))))) SBU!!!!

I purposely try to respond to originating posts that have no or only one or two replies. What's the use

Favorites? hmmm What's the use

Well if everyone has favorites, you're one of mine What's the use

nothemama8 · Oct 03, 2006, 07:09 PM

you guys are the greatest,
Always- true to your name your always there for us
Suzy- very caring
Monty- you've always been caring and sharing
darkeyes- you've been so supportive and a good mod
Simon- our newest dearest friend
Fuzzy- what can we say but take us to your cave, grrrrrr
Sky- last but not least a truer friend can't be found (SBU)
the love and support you've given us is accepted and returned ten fold
Love
Angie

oksomaybeimnuts · Oct 03, 2006, 07:12 PM

{{{{{{{{angie}}}}}}}}}}}}} What's the use

nothemama8 · Oct 03, 2006, 07:22 PM

OMG, you made me laugh so loud I scared my hubby
we love you
Angie

oksomaybeimnuts · Oct 03, 2006, 07:29 PM

that's my new fall look.......thanks to Petunia What's the use

Sabrina · Oct 04, 2006, 01:43 PM

While I agree with much that has been said, this thread really makes me feel bad. I haven't been visiting this particular forum for sometime because of personal reasons but I would hate for anyone to feel I am playing "favourites".

I often don't reply to any threads here because I feel guilty if I don't reply to ALL the threads.

That is just the other side of the coin for me.

Fuzzybear · Oct 04, 2006, 02:59 PM

I think most or all people here can see that you don't play favourites (((((((((((( Sabrina )))))))))))))

But it's ok to be closer to some people, I haven't found any rule book....yet... that says that is a crime What's the use

to all on this thread

(from someone who is trying to learn in my heart that one or two rotten apples don't spoil the whole bunch What's the use

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JustAPixie · Oct 04, 2006, 04:09 PM

((((((( nothemama )))))))))

I wish I caught this thread sooner!!! I hope I don't make you feel that way... I feel the same sometimes, and the reason I don't reply to some is because I think they don't like me... I'm paranoid about that.

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