[snarfy]

This is a followup on my earliar post.I am sad & lonley.I wonder If I am selfish about my living situation.I feel like my stepdaughter & her boyfreind get all the benifits of living in my home & none of the resposibility.They contribute to our bills but have none of the worries.I wish I could go live somewhere & live eat shower & computer access cable air etc etc & not have to worrry about the bills.To pretty much always have $$$ even tho the peeps house I live in are pretty much broke because of the resposibility.I feel it must be nice to live somewhere & no matter what I do or don't do around the house like maybe taking out trash once in a while or maybe do a sink of dishes.It just makes me angry Taking care of someone who should be taking care of himself.It wiould be one thing if dude was saving $$$ to get own place.Heck why do that when ya can live some where essentially for free?I feel like my wife should understand this.I just get lip service with no results.I feel olike the only sane on here.This isn't rocket sceince .Just common sense.How come I have to be treated like Im the A hole when in reality I am just sticking up for whats "right" & "fair" It not doing them any favors by coddling them either.I eally don't want to be selfisf.However I don't want to be a schmuck either...Am i crazy or should I tale comfort that I am sticking up for myelf & what I feel is right??
Please respond Sincerely Jim C

[domino]

Hi JC

I'm really sorry that your going through all this. It can't be easy for you. Have you tried talking to your wife calmly when she is relaxing and can give you her full attention. You've really got to make her understand how you are feeling right now. This is probably a time when you would rather have the house to yourselves. Women are normally receptive when men are gentle and honest about their feelings. I hope you will find the right words JC.

[Fuzzybear]

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[nothemama8]

It's your home, like Sky said in your other post, get "Tough Love" in gear, either they pay more , do more,or get out

[Bethsway]

You are so right...if two people are old enough to live together...then they are old enough to get their own place or at least pay rent where they do live...and pay their own expenses such as groceries...I am sorry you are going through this...Hope things turn around for you!