[foreverpondering]

I need help. I was diagnosed with depression about a year ago and have been to counseling as well as tried a few medications. Nothing seems to help and it is impacting my relationships with friends and more severely my relationship with my boyfriend.

There are some days when I feel great. I feel great about my boyfriend and I am social and outgoing. However, when I fall into the pit of depression, everything changes. Everything I thought I knew feels wrong. I don't talk to my friends and I feel strangely towards my boyfriend of ten months.

Let me explain what "strangely" means. I don't want to see or talk to him. I find the things that he says and does annoying and I snap at him easily over stupid stuff. I feel like I don't love him anymore and that I would be better off being alone. I focus on our differences and I think that there are too many and that we are wrong for each other. The whole relationships ends up making me feel anxious.

The thing is....I don't always feel like this toward him. He's an incredible guy. He knows I have depression and he's very supportive. He tries very hard to make me happy even when I'm sometimes very rough on him. Sometimes, our relationship seems to be going very well. But when I get depressed, everything feels wrong and I wonder if it would just be better to break up with him.

I guess I just can't figure out if it's the relationship that's making me depressed or is it the depression that's ruining my relationship. Can depression make you feel like you don't love someone anymore?

I need help. Please reply to this thread.

[Rohag]

Hello & Welcome, Foreverpondering!

Originally Posted by foreverpondering

I guess I just can't figure out if it's the relationship that's making me depressed or is it the depression that's ruining my relationship. Can depression make you feel like you don't love someone anymore?

Depression can really mess with your mind and perceptions, that's the reason for the common advice to not make any major decisions while you are depressed. Sometimes, of course, it's necessary to make decisions during a depressive episode, but it's highly advisable to get good counsel first and, if possible, wait till the depression lifts at least a little.

Please keep posting.

[dailyhealing]

I would agree with the last person's point of trying not to make any big decisions when you are in the middle of a depressive period. I know when I'm depressed even the small decisions seem difficult! Hope to keep hearing from you foreverpondering. btw, I like the username!

[Stryder]

Hi. I feel pretty much the same way. Only I don't have a boyfriend. I feel very lonely and deeply depressed.

Let's hope there's hope out there somewhere.
My meds don't seem to help :-(

Originally Posted by foreverpondering

I need help. I was diagnosed with depression about a year ago and have been to counseling as well as tried a few medications. Nothing seems to help and it is impacting my relationships with friends and more severely my relationship with my boyfriend.

There are some days when I feel great. I feel great about my boyfriend and I am social and outgoing. However, when I fall into the pit of depression, everything changes. Everything I thought I knew feels wrong. I don't talk to my friends and I feel strangely towards my boyfriend of ten months.

Let me explain what "strangely" means. I don't want to see or talk to him. I find the things that he says and does annoying and I snap at him easily over stupid stuff. I feel like I don't love him anymore and that I would be better off being alone. I focus on our differences and I think that there are too many and that we are wrong for each other. The whole relationships ends up making me feel anxious.

The thing is....I don't always feel like this toward him. He's an incredible guy. He knows I have depression and he's very supportive. He tries very hard to make me happy even when I'm sometimes very rough on him. Sometimes, our relationship seems to be going very well. But when I get depressed, everything feels wrong and I wonder if it would just be better to break up with him.

I guess I just can't figure out if it's the relationship that's making me depressed or is it the depression that's ruining my relationship. Can depression make you feel like you don't love someone anymore?

I need help. Please reply to this thread.

[MissLady1!]

I feel the same way! I feel as if I should break up with my boyfriend sometimes for days. I'll go online and look at apartments that I could afford if I did break up with my boyfriend. Also, I make other plans to make sure I can support myself if I did break up with him. Then I feel this strong guilt about feeling and thinking this way, and sometimes I start crying and tell my boyfriend I miss him. I feel insane I was diagnosed with GAD about a year ago, and I think my meds need to be increased

[Altered Moment]

Depression is a very isolating disease. Usually we don't want to see anyone or talk to anyone or be bothered by anyone. Maybe it is best if he just leaves you alone when you are depressed rather than try to cheer you up. People can often says things that only make us feel worse and feel resentful at that person because they just don't get it.