[badcloud]

Well, major depression is in process, brought on by my bad behavior. DWI. Convicted. I have another one as well. I cannot deal very well with this turn of fate. I am not drinking at all now, BTW. My depression was really really bad, but I have made some progress forward. Also, outside of harming myself emotionally and mentally, there was no damage to any person, tree, animal, or mineral. I had starting drinking too much at times... this is true. Yes, you already recognize I could go on and on.

Here is my current struggle in thinking: A long time friend and his wife will be coming to visit for a couple of nights in a few weeks. Yes, I was brave enough to say "oh yes come stay with us while you are on your way north." They asked. In no way would I have throw out an invitation right now, but they asked, and I held my breath and said oh yes! Another long time friend will be coming for dinner one of those evenings. Now, it's easy enough to say my husband and I are no longer drinking, but you guys knock your socks off. But I can't drive due to my lost license, so I won't be doing driving to any site seeing they may want to do (uh, can you guys drive?). Is this when I come out with the truth? Do I just avoid it the best way possible. Can I be taking drugs (well, I am taking brain drugs, of course) and not be able to drive? I am just so overwhelmed with all of this. ALL of this.

I desperately try to apply the "it's how we react to things" thinking to try to keep myself out of the deep end.

I would like your thoughts. All of this is going to go on for a long time...

My best to the forum in all of your struggles...

[Rohag]

Hello, Badcloud. My general policy with depression is "need to know." Who needs to know, and how much do they need to know? Beyond that I don't have any advice. My opinion is that taking psychoactive medication can justify refraining from driving.

[badcloud]

Thanks Rohag for your thoughts.

Others? Really, I do need feedback. I am really stuck this morning in every darn way. Trying to motivate myself to do anything.

I am thinking on a positive side with old friends coming that maybe this will motivate me to get stuff done around my house. I have several weeks before they show up. Honestly, I have known these people for years and years, and they are terrible house guests on a good day. ha. Levity.

[gayleggg]

Can your husband drive? Maybe that would solve the site seeing problem.

I. also, agree with everything Rohag said. And if you get tired there's nothing wrong with telling them you are going to lay down for a while. I think of this because I have low psyhical stamina.

Make a list of things that need to be done and face only one thing at a time. If their real friends they won't care anyway.

Good luck.

Could you say you have a medical condition that means you can't drive right now? I know with epilepsy you can't drive unless you've been seizure free for a year. I know it's not the truth but maybe they wouldn't ask specifics...

[Curupira]

I agree with Rohag. I consider my depression and all things realated to it personal. Those that need to know or those I feel safe sharing witn, I tell. Everyone else I deflect, lie to, or tell to mind their own buisness.

Tell them what you feel comfortable telling them, you are under no obligation.