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I've been depressed for about 4 years and on meds for 3. I've also had an eating disorder for the same amount of time, when depressed I eat. I haven't been able to have a proper relationship in the last 4 years because of my depression and anxiety, I keep pushing them away. Well I've been weaning off my meds for the last few months, and I've met a new guy who is now my boyfriend. He's the first guy I've met since I've been depressed that I feel comfortable with and who makes me truly happy. I feel like my depression is gone, and not only that but I don't overeat anymore, no more bingeing. I don't have the urge to binge or just eat like I used to. He bought me an Easter bunny last weekend and I didn't even eat it! It sat on top of my microwave until last night and we shared it.
I'm happy with this but also kind of upset that I hve to have a boyfriend to not be depressed. I'm worried it'll come right back if something would happen that we break up. What do you guys think? |
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Maybe you have a boyfriend because you're not depressed and not 'pushing', not the other way around :P I think you should enjoy this and not worry about what might happen to make you feel bad.
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eh, you've been depressed, of course you'll be negative. Just remember that it comes from that and there isn't anything real to worry about at the moment. If you're afraid of depending too much on your boyfriend for happiness maybe make sure you've got a hobby or something just for you so you can feel confident in yourself?
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Hello JustWantToBeNormal, for some people depression can be situational and can be a one off thing. It sounds like you are taking better care of yourself right now. For other people depression can be a life long thing and then we build up a toolbox for those darker times. I hope your happiness continues!
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Relationships can definitely be used as a "fix" just like street drugs can. I am not saying this is the case but it happens a lot.
Relationships can also be used to be very healing if both people know how to do it. If he is someone who listens, does not judge, accepts you warts and all, validates your feelings, mirrors, etc. it can be very healing and you can do the same for him.
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