I really don't like Mother's Day.

Okay, I'm going to say it. I'm not a fan of Mother's Day. It's just the 2nd Sunday in May, and another reason for cards, flowers and outpouring of commercialism.

Birthdays are more important to me. You become a Mom on the birthday of your child. You go from one version of yourself to something bigger. You're given the gift of someone who needs your love, understanding and nurturing till the end of your days, IF you are lucky.

Personally, I've failed as a parent and so I've been told countless times by my only daughter. I've failed as a daughter bc my mom has completely forgotten my birthday 3 times in my lifetime so far. If the tables were turned, she would be mortified and extremely hurt if I ever forgot hers.

Perhaps it's because I've never been celebrated for being a good mom who sacrificed more than was needed in an effort to be loved.
Perhaps it's because my birth day as the first child has never been a celebration for my family; it's been a burden for as long as I can recall in my memories.

Happy Sunday to those who get revered and doted on, lavished with gifts, flowers and cards. Happy Sunday to the rest of us, who are hoping for a beautiful sunny Spring day and not expecting much more than that.

I hate mother's day too. Though it's already gone for the UK. We have it in March. I hate mother's day for different reasons to you though. I hate it because while other people are playing happy families and taking their mothers for granted, I'm here on my own. She's still alive but... Couldn't be bothered to raise her own children. People don't know how lucky they are to have their mothers. And every mothers day I die a little inside because I don't have a mother who I can love.

Yeah, also from the UK... and I've got to admit, when I first saw the title I did a quick "oh *****... is that soon?" irrespective of the fact I bought a card and gift... and sent them on time in March or whenever it was :facepalm:

I'm not a fan of these commercial days... but it's not worth the earache I'd get from the wife and mother if I didn't.

I am sorry to hear that this specific day is a rough one for you and I too hope that it is sunny and can be celebrated for other reasons that what social conformity expects.

I, too, hate mother's day and for a different reason. My dearly loved mother, as great as one could be, died 5 years ago. Mother's Day brings back memories making me miss her even more. My daughter has asked to come to her house so we can go shopping and eat out. She is my pride an joy and her birth date means more to me than Mother's Day. It was the day that I gave birth to the one thing that keeps me going. But I'm lucky because I had the best of mom's and daughter. They were and are my stength that has gotten me through life.

My heart goes out to the two of you that didn't get that kind of support. I can't imagine how heartbreaking it is to go through life without that support. I hope you can get out and forget what day it is and enjoy yourselves. You deserve it.

I'm glad that you had a good relationship with your mom, and that your heart aches for her. It's nice that your daughter wants to be with you and enjoy your company. And I agree. The birth dates are more important than this silly 2nd Sunday in May. Too much pressure to produce cards, flowers and things like that. Really? Are the gestures sincere and full of love, or insincere just being done bc it's "Mother's Day"?

For me, I lost my daughter by her choosing. She told me one day that she loved me and was so happy that this was the closest we had ever been. In the next 3 months, she went from seeing me everyday to absolutely NOTHING. She was too busy for everything. Sadly I had fallen for the lines and the lie. Sadly my heart was filled like a balloon full of joy only to be burst with a nail, left bleeding.

I'm a mom, but you would never know it. I have lots of love to give and share. My only daughter doesn't want me anymore. I look at other peoples' daughters and granddaughters and long for my own.

I am not a fan of Mothers Day either. Starting when my two children were 10 and 12, they began to show they disliked me. At church (on Mothers Day) when they gave out flowers, the children were supposed to go up get a flower and present it to their mother. Starting that day,they refused to go up and get a flower. My heart was crushed. The next two years it was the same. After that I would no longer go to church on Mothers Day. It never got better after that.
I also am not a fan of Mothers Day because my own dear mother passed away almost three and a half years ago.
It is too painful of a holiday for me. I try not to think about it.

Well, I have learned that I can't please 'em all...my mother, my mother-in-law, my wife...So, I've focused my attention on my wife. That way, if I get any complaints from anyone, it will be from those that I don't have to live with every day...When my son was a toddler, this was a great day; too bad it's not like it is for some folks - every holiday is joyous, even the "hallmark" holidays. Well, that was a bit of a break, I now return to my regularly scheduled depressive episode, already in progress...

Sophie I am so sad for you. I am not a big fan of mother's day even though I am a mother and have a loving, attentive daughter. But you see, mother's day is never about me being a mother. We are always "required" to go to an exhausting and long winded family gathering at my sister-in-laws house to honor my husband's mother. I sound selfish but I never get to do anything I would like to do. I do care for my mother-in-law but sometimes I would like to just sit home and rest. They always have their family gathering outdoors and this time of year it is 85 to 90 degrees outside where we live and I don't like to spend too much time outside in that kind of heat. It doesn't seem to bother my in-laws. Also, over the years I regret that I didn't do a lot of mother's day activities with my mother. My own mother loved me with all her heart. She passed away four and a half years ago and I still miss her. I think holidays like this are just hard

well looking at the commerical cards yesterday they range for 3.99$ - 9.95$

and I was like screw it not buying a card I can make my own card. She doesn't like flowers since she is allergic. So I was thinking of popping over and make her dinner or something like that. or whatever happens happen I really wanna go to grandmas burial and plant tulips or something like that. I miss Grandma she was sweet and kind woman who always had big hugs for everyone. we were closer then me and my mom

Mother's Day is complicated for some of us. My memory is of going to the cemetery with my dad, placing flowers by my mother's grave, saying a Hail Mary, then going home.



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I'm so sorry to hear that people don't really love mother's day because of the experience they have with their moms. I'm so lucky to have a great mom who loves me very much.

That makes me so sad. I'm literally choked up right now from reading that. I'm sorry your kids don't show you the appreciation you deserve. I have a hard time showing gratitude towards my mom, I guess I am a bit bitter towards her. I am working on getting past what I expected of her as a mother and excepting her as a person instead. We children have this strange idea that parents are supposed to be perfect not realizing that they are just people like you and me. Your post makes me want to show her a bit more gratitude...in your honer! Happy mothers day to you!

You failed as a daughter because your mother forgot your birthday?? I dont understand that.

You are very lucky indeed. Celebrate her on all those other days too...this "Mother's Day" has grown so commercialized that it's no longer sincere. Pick a day and surprise her, wish her Happy Mother's Day! She'll love it!

I was being very snarky, sad and hurting.

I figure that I'm not that memorable as a daughter to be remembered.
Hard to believe considering I'm the first child of 5 and I'm the only daughter.
In my house, it was more than obvious that my 4 brothers were favorites and always came first...maybe it was a cultural thing. It's still this way after all these years.