[dilemma-girl]

I am completely successful in all that I do - studies, job, extra-curricular. I've not failed at anything I've done except... relationships.
Relationships seem to stump me. Whilst it is uncommon for girls from my place to go through many relationships, each time a person conveyed their love to me, I ended up believing blindly, but all they did was be romantic to me and then left me.
When I did give my virginity, it was for the person I truly loved and wished to marry. But he left me for someone else.
Heartbroken, I returned to flirting and making out till I met my current boyfriend - call him B.
B is amazing in all ways. He truly shows his love, puts me above his work, friends, family, etc. We spend most of our time together. We've been together for more than a year.
But he resents my past.
He used to scold me badly for it, though he lessened it now. But I don't like how he treats me.
He says he would never have touched me if not for my past, but he now demands sex everyday.
We don't live together, but we have had intercourse regularly at his demands.
He touches me and kisses me in office even though it is weird.
But he is doubtful to marry me. And we couldn't leave each other.
His ideas of jokes include asking me to live-in with others, calling me a slut, etc.
I can't get over his mood swings.
Should I always endure this punishment for my mistakes.
Will he marry me. I am going too depressed to the point that I am also thinking of intercourse daily.
I can't - I wish to run away. I have no one to help as he cut off all my friends and monitors my phone.

[Rohag]

Hello & Welcome, Dilemma-girl.

Several comments stand out to me:

• he resents my past
• I don't like how he treats me
• I can't get over his mood swings
• he cut off all my friends and monitors my phone (!!!)

I am concerned this current relationship is not healthy for you.

Have you spoken to any professional counsellors about your relationship patterns?

You may find valuable perspectives in the Relationships & Communication Forum.

Make yourself at home, Dilemma-girl.

[dilemma-girl]

No I haven't spoken to anyone. Unfortunately, it just isn't possible to actually go to counsellors without him or my folks knowing. I just have absolutely no one to talk to. Sometimes I burst out in anger and start shouting followed by heavy crying no matter where I am. I am just losing a grip on all in life and feel utterly helpless and alone.

[gayleggg]

Originally Posted by adamwatson85

That guy is just using you. Just give it a thought, even if he marries you how will be your life with him, with so many restrictions and binding. I would suggest to leave him and leave your life freely without any ones control. One fine day your real love will find you, till then enjoy with your friends.

I have to agree with Adam. I lived with a controling husband for 24 years and heard many slurs on my past, then it was the way I cleaned the house, etc. He just kept finding fault with me because he couldn't let go of my past. When he at last put bruises on me I told him to leave. YOu don't deserve this treatment.

[dilemma-girl]

How do you leave someone you love. Especially if he doesn't leave