invalidation is....

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fuzzy

Hello, Fuzzybear. I wish you well.

Saw what you wrote earlier Fuzzy, sorry that I didn't write a reply... wasn't in the right place at the time

I am sorry for what you're going through and for what it's worth, validation is you being here... your words, hearts and hugs of encouragement to others... they mean so much to many.

You're such a lovely person and I for one am so glad you're here.

With reference to validation from real life situations, then please stay strong and keep stating your case to those that matter... I know that it takes a lot out of you and is taking time... but you are doing the best you can, it will click at some point.

I didn't get to read your post... and I don't understand what it's all about... but it's not necessary to send a hug...is it?



hugs ^^

Invalidation is everywhere, it feels personal but it really isn't, it happens to us all. That doesn't make it better though does it, so here's a hug. ((((((Fuzzybear))))))

Hi Fuzzy, invalidation hurts. You are always one of the kindest most supportive person on this forum. You have always been helpful to me. I send you lots of big bear hugs.

I clicked on the links to your YouTube channel both here in your post & on your blog. Both took me to a YouTube screen that says the channel does not exist.

My mom used to invalidate our feelings. In turn, she had been severely mistreated during her childhood. I think my dad practiced invalidation on her, as well, perhaps as a revenge or vindication. He had been very poor and deprived during childhood, indeed. To me, it was a chain of victimhood. My parents did not have a lot of tools or resources to raise us, I think I love them anyway, although I have to admit they produced emotional impairments in my siblings and me. I became disabled in my adolescence and that extra burden made me more prone to invalidation. Being at the bottom, I had to learn that, once you are an adult, you can relativize (in) validation. Nobody can tell the value of a person. As society, we have established that human beings are of supreme value, although in some cultures or ideologies, the value of human beings as individuals are submitted to greater values ( and thus they justify murder on behalf of those superior values), but to me it is just a matter of self-preservation. I mean, the human race at certain stage realized that they have to establish certain rules otherwise we will exterminate each other. IMO, according to the dominant system, certain characteristics are valued as positive (for example, having money, goods, beauty, youth). When you do not have those characteristics you appear as less valuable. To me, particular invalidations mimic those in society, and many times just reflect the anxiety of the invalidator before social pressure. Of course, individual background and particularities are always present, but they always occur within a social context. We live in a world full of exclusion. Ok, sorry to share my weird thoughts but I wanted to share them with you, Fuzzy. You are your owner and you determine your own value. To me, your value is huge. You always brighten me day.

Hi Fuzzy! I validate you, too!

If we are fortunate enough to find the right people, support groups, friends, seeker sinking, we can learn to validate each other in healthy ways and heal old wounds.

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Invalidation is dehumanizing.

Thank you existing, Fuzzybear. Thank you for all the hugs you have given. You speak little, but hug well. I hope you doing ok.

(((((Fuzzypaws)))))

...something you have experienced repeatedly.
((((((( Fuzzybear! )))))))
Strength and Peace to you...

Might I ask what "invalidation" is? For reals...... The dictionary I use to translate english words with just say something like "reseter" (something or someone or resets things)... Is it about not puting value on peoples good deeds? is it about valueing someone lower than others?... sry for asking ._.

I think it is when other people minimize or do not acknowledge your feelings by ignoring, mocking you, telling that you are exaggerating, etcetera.