[mulan]

I'm tired of being hurt the same way over and over. If I'm sad probably the reason in an extent way is just one...other people showed me that I am the one who they care the least.

That known experience of being the last one picked up in physical education classes...I had that a lot, in high school I always had to belong to the three people group whenever the teacher would tell us to work in pairs, because I was always the one left.

I feel now that I have to go through the same process again.

And to add to that my grades now in college depend on a important part on teachers evaluations.

They basically have some contact with you and give me a grade according to their opinion about me.

And if systematically my grade gave by teachers was the lowest one compared to your peers? That's me...thank you people out there (teachers) for letting me know what people in general think about my personality and the way I look. Thank you for your feedback because it was pretty clear that without them I wouldn't have a clue about the way people feel about me!...

Hello Mulan: Yes, I was always at least one of the last ones picked too. It's hard to have to keep going through this 1st in grade school & then in high school, then in college too. It does seem that, once you get out into the working world it gets better, at least it did for me... a little. (It's a long story.) Hopefully you will see things improve too as you move out into the working world. Best wishes...

[glok]

Hello, Mulan. Are you allowing others to define you?

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...ers-define-you

[mulan]

Originally Posted by The Skeezyks

Hello Mulan: Yes, I was always at least one of the last ones picked too. It's hard to have to keep going through this 1st in grade school & then in high school, then in college too. It does seem that, once you get out into the working world it gets better, at least it did for me... a little. (It's a long story.) Hopefully you will see things improve too as you move out into the working world. Best wishes...

I have been told that...about the working world. For me the idea of providing for myself and being just by me, away from my family and from the few friends I have...it's terrifying. I don't know if it will happen to me, because the career I got into is a very competitive one.

I which I knew the secret!
Thank you for your feedback.

[mulan]

Originally Posted by glok

Hello, Mulan. Are you allowing others to define you?

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...ers-define-you

I think there's any way we cannot do that...

Well, there's really not a secret as such, my dear Mulan. But it is important to just take everything one step at a time. Just keep in mind that it's allot easier to eat a pizza one bite at a time than it is to try to stuff the whole thing into your mouth at once! (Oh dear, did I say that?) My best wishes to you!