[usered]

Anybody else have trouble getting depressed on Father's Day? I don't talk to my dad, haven't in 20 years. I tried, but my sister bitterly hates him and finds ways to sabotage any attempt. I finally got so sick of being stuck in between the two of them that I quit talking to both of them. The reality is they are both emotionally abusive. Normally I get by OK, but on Father's Day I can't avoid it. It's all over the TV, facebook, my job. This really hurts. Just wondering if anyone else dreads this day?

[gma45]

It doesn't bother me too much. My father passed away a few years ago. I do get a bit sad but he had a good long life and we were never real close. I wouldn't let your sister have the last word, if you feel like talking with your dad call him. But if you are going to get emotionally abused it wouldn't really be worth it, would it? My thought is life is short so if you have something to say to him you should do it. Better than having regrets later on. I am sorry you are hurting. Sending good vibes and gentle hugs your way!

[nummy]

Why not just a simple card next Father's Day? You don't need to do much except sign it. Whatever your father did, your sister doesn't have a right to interfere in your choices. Good luck.

[usered]

Thanks, I had a therapy session today trying to vent and work through it. I saw all of your suggestions earlier on my phone but couldn't respond. There's no easy solution, I think that's why it bothers me so much.

[tickledviolet73]

I dread it too - my father died 12 years ago and watching people take their Dad's to brunch, out for the day, etc feels terrible. I say if you want to reach out to him reach out and don't let your sister's reaction affect you (I know easier said than done).

[gayleggg]

I, too, was depressed on Father's Day. I lost my Dad 4 years ago and miss him very much, but especially on Father's Day. And I had just got over Mother's Day. I miss her even more. She was my best friend.

If you have something you need to say to your father make sure you do it now before it's too late. Sometimes we have things to tell people so we can carry on after their death with no regrets. Good luck.

[regretful]

I lost my dad to colon cancer in 1996. We were very close, and I'd give anything for even one more minute with him. Father's day is always tough. I don't know your particular situation, but if you can find a way, reconcile because when they're gone, there's no way to do that...

[ToeJam]

Lost my Dad in 2008 and in honesty I get more sad during significant days like his birthday and the day he died.

Days like Fathers Day are more of an annoyance as though the recipitants appreciate it... I always forget till the last bloody moment and then either have to send a belated card or send an apologetic text.

Made the rooky error of sending a fathers day card to my step dad one year and my mum gets stroppy if I forget.