[GentleSoul585]

I'm sure I'm not the only one here but I thought I would ask because it has been bothering me for some time.

Are any of you feeling like you don't get any support from your spouse when it comes to helping you conquer your depression? My wife gives me zero support emotionally or physically in the matter and it sucks.

It really sucks to be in heavy depression and have zero support base.

Can anyone here relate?
If you are in the same boat- what do you do to get past this or talk about this without creating an argument or war?
Personally I've said it to her before but it goes in one ear and out the other.

Frustration, to say the least- for me.

[glok]

Hello, GentleSoul585. Is professional help an option for you?

[waterknob1234]

:Hi GentleSoul and welcome to pc. I like your username. I have battled depression for about a year now. There are times when I get frustrated with my husband because he downplayed the suffering I was experiencing. He even thought it was wrong for my medical doc to prescribe me anti-depressants. Of lately as my depression was deepening and causing me physical symptoms he could no longer ignore it. I think what happens is that people who are not suffering this illness don't understand what we are dealing with and it is frustrating. I don't know how to talk to a spouse without creating ruffles. When I finally went to a psychiatrist, I was afraid at first to tell my husband for fear of what he would say. We have been married for 28 years so I knew I can't keep secrets so I told him. Yes he was disturbed at first, but it started to sink in. He is being a little more supportive now. It takes honest communication, I think, even though that is hard. There are lots of folks who will support you here on this forum. Welcome and best wishes.

[birdpumpkin]

I'm in the same boat. My spouse doesn't support me at all. I think I have ptsd from losing everything to a house fire in December plus bad anxiety and depression. He acts like I'm nuts and even says I'm "weird" or "crazy" now. I have a hard time being alone. It's really hard. My family doesn't support me, either. I have a son who's Asperger's, possibly ADD and mentally impaired, so all attention goes to him from my mom and dad. I'm just kind of left in the cold with my problems. Can't afford therapy, so it's just me and self-help books.