"You Choose To Be Miserable"

I think people who say that are actually depressed too and they just can't accept it and live in denial, and they try and project that onto you. At least we who admit to having it have done just that, we have admitted we have a problem. We don't live in denial. I think there are a lot more people out there in the world who have depression but they don't want to admit it, so they force themselves into a false sense of happiness, by getting married, getting a job or money somehow, going out to parties, trying to hook up to have sex, drinking, doing drugs, etc. I refuse to believe that there are so many truly happy people out there. About 90% of people work in a job that is not their first choice, 90% of people are married to someone they don't love, 90% of parents are disappointed somewhat in their children and find their children did not achieve everything that they hoped they would achieve, about 70% of women are married to a man that verbally or physically abuses them (they just don't speak up). So many people are alcoholics or drug addicts, they claim not to be depressed, they always look happy at parties and stuff. And, I'm not pointing fingers here, because I suffer with these same addictions on and off, but I have realized that it is my depressed mental state that has caused all of this. But, I sure as hell would never go around telling people to stop being miserable, because I know it's more than that.

True happiness is when you are truly content with your life, and you don't need all this other stuff to fill some void. Truly happy people have all the patience in the world to wait for something like the right partner, the right job (irrespective of money), the right social scene. They exercise immense control in their lives.

I'm so sick and tired of the world putting forth this extroverted, loud, party-animal, adrenaline-junkie crap as the image of happiness, when clearly it isn't. These people are living in denial, trying to fill a void that they don't want to tackle head-on, like we do. Because THEY are too weak to accept they have a problem.

So, the next time someone says you should choose not to be miserable, you should tell them this:

"You know, real happiness is a choice too. And, since this is a choice too, I have a question for you sir, why have YOU not chosen real happiness in your life?"

At this point the guy will be perplexed and then you can begin to lay it on him, since he saw fit to take you on in the first place. You ask him "Why do you stay in a dead-end job that gives you no satisfaction? Why do you stay in a marriage with a wife you don't love and then have an affair with other women? Why do you go out every second night and get hammered?" It's all a case again of take the log out of your own eye before you take out a splinter out of someone else's. I genuinely believe someone who tells you to choose to stop being miserable is just as depressed, or even more depressed, than you are.