[Fuzzybear]

Something happened at work last week, a workplace bully who always blames others, always sees somebody else as "evil"... It's never them. I am able to protect myself as I've been there for a while. But this bully has targeted one of the kindest sweetest most gentle people I've ever known. And they do it in such a "subtle" way that they won't be caught. I know they are intentionally hurting this person. I do not understand. They need therapy but they ... life can be so sad

Thats really sad, i hate it when people do stuff like that. I just dont get it. Remember to be there for the bullied victim

[Frankbtl]

Hi Fuzzy, you are so caring!!
And I've got to completely agree with being there for the one they're targeting. But they are probably feeling quite vulnerable from it all as well, so if maybe you could make them feel a little better about themselves, a little more confident, a little more empowered?? It might help them subtly confront the bullying, subtly challenge some of the things they are doing.
But is there any chance that you could talk to some other co-workers as well?? It might be very hard/impossible for any one of you to deal with this bully alone, but maybe if a few of you could come together and help each other??
And the blaming others bit, well I can see how it might just be their word against someone else's??? but maybe if you're documenting things/getting evidence/covering yourselves or just showing a pattern that might help in letting their superior (?) know???
As for understanding...........well it could be lots of things.....like them feeling powerless, wanting to feel in control, taking things out on others, having been bullied themselves, being jealous of their targets.........but as you know anyway Fuzzy that doesn't justify their behavior/won't ever make it acceptable...........so instead maybe just try all you can do to not make things too easy for this person, to look after/protect yourself and their target from them.

Alison

[waterknob1234]

I can't stand bullying. I have had to deal with my share of it on my job. For some reason I have noticed throughout my life that bullies tend to single out more vulnerable people to pick on. They have theirs coming, if not in this world then in the next. Fuzzy you are such a kind and caring person. If there are things you can do to look out for yourself and this other person that would be good. Best of wishes to you fuzzy, you are the best.

[Grey Matter]

Bullying of any kind is just not on. I hate that they grow up to be the same children they were on a playground. It is very sad. I am sending you hugs.

[Can't Stop Crying]

Sorry FuzzyBear - I wish workplace bullying was more recognized. I understand how tough it is to watch someone suffering at the hands of another. My heart is breaking for you and the victim of the bully

[Mustkeepjob32]

Your colleague is fortunate though to have you Fuzzybear there at work on their side.

[Idiot17]

You just described something mighty similar to what's going on by my workplace. I Have this guy that subtly bullies others. (Guy needs help though he thinks all is perfect- and he doesn't either get to me as I'm there for much longer then him.)
Difference is it was brought to my attention and I (needing the opinions) took it to the CEO'S desk and he knows it's something we need to deal with.
Is it possible for you or someone else to take the info to the right dept. In your workplace?

10000% agree life can be sad.....

[nummy]

As a victim of workplace bullying I once read that all it takes is for ONE person to openly stick up for the bullied person in order to stop the bullying in its tracks. ONE person. thank god you are there for this person. You are to be commended.

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by Frankbtl

Hi Fuzzy, you are so caring!!

Hear, hear!

Originally Posted by Frankbtl

...but maybe if you're documenting things/getting evidence/covering yourselves or just showing a pattern that might help in letting their superior (?) know???

Documenting is exactly what I would be doing.

((((((( Fuzzybear! )))))))