[tellybox]

I've been in a great relationship for 9 months now, and words cannot express my love for this girl. We've been through alot in our short amount of time together (mostly dealing with self esteem issues that she has), and we always take to the time to talk to one another if things seem to be going badly. But lately, I've been feeling alone. I go out of my way to please my girlfriend, to make her feel wanted, but it seems that it does nothing. This feeling of being singular in a relationship is not one of greatness. It seems to have hit a climactic point this weekend.

I told her that I had been feeling alone and I felt as if the depression was oncoming again (I had battled this before, but it has disapeared for awhile). She took it quite badly, almost as if I blamed her for it. I know, and I'm sure other people on this board believe me when I say that it's not her fault. But she seems to not understand that. Instead, she is shutting me out, not letting me see her when I beg to talk with her about this. It's almost as if I have to defend my feelings towards her, because she feels they are "wrong."

I have no idea what to do. I want her to help me, but she doesn't seem to want to. This is tearing me up inside.

[bryan239]

Im goin threw the same exact thing!, every time I talk to her she takes what im saying as a way to blame her. Has she hurt me?...Ya you bet, and she knows that she has, but I have told her so many times before that I forgave her and now I only want to talk it all out. She misreads everything I tell her as if I blame her all the time. My advice to you and what has been givin to me from others on this site is to give it some time, let things cool down between you and her. As it has been told to me..time heals. I know its hard when you are depressed and you want to talk to her because you confide in her to help you threw it alittle...I felt the same way but just recently I told my self that I couldnt do that anymore...atleast right now and had to work on this my self...so just give it sometime and see what happens. I know it has helped me alot talking to others on this site so take full advantage of what this site has to offer and the people on it as well! If you ever wanna talk, just ask...maybe we can help each other threw our problem, yours seem alot like mine. Good luck!

sounds as if someone else is going through something very similiar to you here............you can talk to us and we'll all listen and give you feedback.

i'm sorry that you're feeling so much pain right now.......xoxox pat

[tellybox]

Well, today my girlfriend dumped me. Reason: I've changed. I feel more alone now then ever. I thought she was the one person in my life who I could have trusted right now to help me through this. I guess not. I have no idea what I'm supposed to do with my life now.

[jacq10]

(((((((((((((((Tellybox))))))))))))))

I'm sorry to hear this ... this must be such a hard time for you. Hang in there though, baby steps, you can get through this. Maybe this will give you more of an oportunity to take care of YOU and you will be able to step back and take more control of your life.

Keep talking with us

[tellybox]

Well, it's been a few days since the break-up and I'm lost. I just want to sleep all day to avoid the heartache and sadness I feel when I wake up. We still talk a bit, and I respect her decision to leave and try to sort out her life but I just don't know what to do with mine anymore. It's so hard to find something to do. I regret so much for not seeing a therapist earlier. If I would have, maybe I would have been able to salvage our relationship sooner. But the truth is, I didn't. And that tears me up inside everyday.