[ToeJam]

While I was in hospital my wife booked tickets for us (and her parents) to go by coach to the seaside tomorrow. I am however still struggling badly with noise and high stimulus... and in addition to that, the crisis team have booked to come and see me in the afternoon so I've declined the invite.

This is going to be my first day at home on my own in over 2 months and I am going to have to manage my time so that I don't spiral... identify signs if I do and reach out for help if things start getting too much... test will be in the pudding as they say, but it's been noticeable to me how the antenna of my wife has picked up on my dips quicker than I, so yeah.. going to miss her, but I still want her to go and get away for a day... she needs the break and has been looking forward to it.

[Idiot17]

Good luck on your day....you can do it...

[Clara22]

Good luck!!!

[flours]

I hope you have a good day!

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((( TJ )))))))))

[Frankbtl]

Hi TJ, not trivialisig it in any way but remember/keep reminding yourself that you've handled far tougher things than this!!
I mean how far you've come............and how well you've started doing again since you got home!!
But a plan, hey??
Maybe you could schedule in some things to do?? And walking the dog has to be in there somewhere as well, right?? Morning........maybe after the visit from the crisis team, to let you get a breather if it's stressful or give you time to think more "freely"??
And maybe agree with your wife that she's going to call you when she gets there/on her way back just for that connection??
And..........well a few other things planned in there- things you might/could enjoy however small??
As long as they don't interfere with you coming back to us and getting support here if you need it!!
So you won't be on your own anyway, you'll have us!!

Alison

[ToeJam]

Thank you for the messages. Been a no energy day which for the situation worked out well (ironically)... No desire to do much more than sit and stare gormlessly either into space or at my computer. Any thoughts of si or whatever else were just squashed by nothing being there to fuel it.

In addition with the change of temperature in the uk I think I'm coming down with a cold or some other bug that is going around so that will keep me distracted in a different miserable way by which being a bloke my wife will exclaim 'man flu' as I moan about that.

Crisis team lady came at 2... Had called before hand and I asked if she was ok with dogs (I need to ask this as our little madam wants to meet and greet whoever comes in and if I put her in her cage she will bark constantly which throws out my concentration)... Lady said yes as long as our dog was friendly to which I said yes... Bet you know what's coming next... For the first time ever while at home instead of being all happy she growled and went into protect mode grabbed her and put her in the other room (let her back in at the woman's request a few minutes later and she was fine as the lady was sitting).

Transpires Sundays are quiet days for home visits so the lady was in no rush to leave and we ended up talking for about 40 minutes (I was getting very tired by the end of it)... Was calming though and was nice to have the company.

Got another visit Tuesday afternoon which works out well as the wife starts back at work (teacher).

My cop friend is coming to visit tomorrow as he wants me to take him to the King Richard the 3rd (I think) museum tomorrow (he's a bit of a culture and history buff) which should be fine as it'll be quiet... Have forewarned him that if we go into crowded areas my earphones are going in to which he joked his wife does that frequently to him talking so no problem.

[Frankbtl]

Hi TJ, sounds like the perfect setup for tomorrow then- you can complain to your friend about your flu and he can complain to you about his wife not listening
But seriously, sounding like visits from the crisis team are going a lot better, a lot less stressful?? Which is great, just try to make the most of them, although it sounds like you're not managing too bad right now??
Still, try to enjoy tomorrow, really good you're still keeping up the contact with your friend, and if you are/were to be "on edge" it sounds like he's understanding, so hopefully you're not going to be worrying to much about that
Alison

[lilypup]

Sounds like you are doing super!

[Mustkeepjob32]

It sounds like you're doing better. That makes me glad.

Originally Posted by ToeJam

Crisis team lady came at 2... Had called before hand and I asked if she was ok with dogs (I need to ask this as our little madam wants to meet and greet whoever comes in and if I put her in her cage she will bark constantly which throws out my concentration)... Lady said yes as long as our dog was friendly to which I said yes... Bet you know what's coming next... For the first time ever while at home instead of being all happy she growled and went into protect mode grabbed her and put her in the other room (let her back in at the woman's request a few minutes later and she was fine as the lady was sitting).

lol! My dog hates the crisis team too. He just always picked up on my negative energy I guess and would growl and bark at them until I shut him away. He wouldn't do it with anyone else except the crisis team.