[SadMan111111]

Hi,

I try to keep this post short and get to the point fast. I never went to a shrink and I dont think I ever do. I never posted this kind of messages as well and this is my first time doing this. I am a 27 years old man with 190cm height and a six pack ab. I am a phd student in Melbourne university and recently came to the Melbourne from one of the third world countries. I have the most beautiful girl as a girlfriend good friends good family good job and I still don't feel good about anything. As long as I remember I always thought people are making fun of me. Even people who are passing by me in the street I think they are laughing at me. It seems like they always smile and then suddenly put their heads down or look another way to avoid eye contacts with me. I wasn't always like this 3 or 4 years ago I was near 110 kg (right now Im 82) and with a bad hair bad job and without any girlfriend what so ever. I decided to work to care about my looks and work out. I thought if I solve these problem my real problem would be solved. However, right now, Im here and I achieved everything that I thought could help but I still feel the same that I was feeling 4 years ago. I get sad for no reason, I pick a fight without any reason to my girl friend who by the way must loves me so much because frankly I don't know how she bear me. Moreover, She and all the friends and family around me think that I am a very confidence and powerful man but I know that Im not. I don't even have enough confidence to look people in the eyes( men or women) and the fact that they don't get me and always saying-- you're this good you're that good -- is so annoying.

Anyway, I don't know if anyone understands the experience that Im having but if anyone does please help me because seriously I don't know what the *** is wrong with me.

[kaliope]

hi sadman
it sounds like you suffer from low self esteem. despite changing your outsides, your insides still feel the same. perhaps reading the posts in the self esteem forum you would identify with some of the issues and gain some tips on what to do. I started by focusing on a strength I couldn't deny. that I was a good writer. no matter how badly I felt about myself, I could not deny that I was a good writer, so when I was thinking negative thoughts about myself, I could turn them around by affirming to myself that I was a good writer. then I came up with a few more good things about myself and added those to the list. it took some time but soon I had a whole bunch of good things to think about myself and my selfesteem was better, Welcome to Psych Central. You will find that we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. You will get a lot of support here. Again, welcome.

[Mustkeepjob32]

I wish you would reconsider going to a shrink. I agree with kaliope that it sounds like you have low self-esteem. Therapy can help. Also, the book "Feeling Good" by David Burns.

[AngstyLady]

hmm, you sound like you're suffering from paranoia, and perhaps an undiagnosed case ofschizoaffective disorder- which is when one shows sign of schizophrenia but they're aware that such symptoms are nonsense- but they can cause a certain level of distress nonetheless. I know thi because a while back my then psychiatrist diagnosed me as having a much . . anyways, good luck!

[Altered Moment]

It sounds to me too that you have some self esteem issues and some paranoia going on. You have figured out that external things don't fix the inside. It is an inside job. However it takes the help of others.

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