[Little Jay]

Hi guys,

I'm having a hard day today

At lunch I was sat with some of my work colleagues and they got onto the topic that apparently someone I work with has said he is clinically depressed. It was being spoken about as if it was some hot gossip, and then one guy was going on about how he "doesn't seem" depressed, and that he bets he hasn't even seen a doctor he's probably just being over dramatic! This really made me angry and upset, and also made me feel extremely uncomfortable. Most of my colleagues know that I was admitted to hospital earlier this year for my depression, and now I'm left thinking what was being said about me earlier this year - were they saying the same about me? I didn't want to end up snapping rudely at him, so instead I stood up and went to put my cutlery in the sink as an excuse to get away from it. They must have known I was uncomfortable because they had changed their conversation by the time I got back. I'm so overly emotional that I was then left feeling extremely upset for the next couple of hours. I was already having a pretty low day, so this just really hit a nerve.

I just don't know how to deal with people who are so insensitive. Even though they weren't talking about me it felt like they could have been. I kept my eyes down or acted like I was extremely interested in my phone because I just didn't want to see if any of them were looking at me who know about me.

I just feel like I need lots of hugs... and maybe a nice cup of tea and a blanket to cuddle up with I just soooo want to get out of this horrible low mood but as hard as I try to stay strong and get past it somehow it always manages to take over

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by Little Jay

Even though they weren't talking about me it felt like they could have been.

I would have felt exactly the same, whether or not I wanted to feel it. No psychological technique or trick would have prevented me from thinking that in the same situation.

Originally Posted by Little Jay

...and maybe a nice cup of tea and a blanket to cuddle up with

This is a Good Idea! Some people have a degree of success handling difficult feelings by getting physically comfortable and then allowing the feelings to wash over them; no "fighting" the feelings. The feelings may ebb more quickly without struggling with them.

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[Jolisse]

People who have never experienced depression, can never relate to what a person goes through. People like this are ignorant and rather gossip about a person's problem, rather then understand it.
For me, I find most people to be selfish and insensitive and I tend to ignore them.

[waterknob1234]

These gossiping fools were being ugly and insensitive. They do not understand what depression is like and how badly it hurts. I would have had to get away from them. Knowing me I probably would have said something to them which would have made the situation worse. My big mouth gets me into trouble all the time. Hugs to you.

[Mustkeepjob32]

I would have been upset too. It sounds like you handled it appropriately. People will be ignorant people.