[octoberpumpkin]

I just got a job finally after over a year. Hooray. Here comes the stress and anxiety and panic attacks again.

To make it worse, there were some screw ups with my last bank, some my fault, some the banks, and now I can't open another bank account for my new job which starts Monday. So I'm going to give them my boyfriends banking information and hope it works because if not then I'm screwed I guess.

When we get a chance we will go talk to them about being added on to his account but who is to say they will? How am I supposed to fix my bank issues if they won't give me a bank account? What if they won't add me on to his? It's a big spiral mess and I'm so very depressed about it.

Also turns out we have a week less than expected to move out and everything is all jammed together and I'm out of boxes and driving scares me. How am I supposed to get more boxes and pack in a week.

I just feel like such a failure. I can't even have a bank account like a normal person. I can't even have a bank account like a normal person. I don't know what to do. I'm so stressed

[SimonSays1]

Originally Posted by octoberpumpkin

I just got a job finally after over a year. Hooray. Here comes the stress and anxiety and panic attacks again.

To make it worse, there were some screw ups with my last bank, some my fault, some the banks, and now I can't open another bank account for my new job which starts Monday. So I'm going to give them my boyfriends banking information and hope it works because if not then I'm screwed I guess.

When we get a chance we will go talk to them about being added on to his account but who is to say they will? How am I supposed to fix my bank issues if they won't give me a bank account? What if they won't add me on to his? It's a big spiral mess and I'm so very depressed about it.

Also turns out we have a week less than expected to move out and everything is all jammed together and I'm out of boxes and driving scares me. How am I supposed to get more boxes and pack in a week.

I just feel like such a failure. I can't even have a bank account like a normal person. I can't even have a bank account like a normal person. I don't know what to do. I'm so stressed

What exactly is a "failure"? What exactly is a "success"? It is society's faulty sense of values and belief system that would lead you to believe your self worth is tied to a bank account. Be happy for your new job.

I am almost sure you will get the bank account situated. You have a job, you will be getting money. Banks love money, if this bank doesnt want to work with you, find another bank. Also at the end of the day. Go to grocery stores and ask them if they have spare boxes in the back.

[Momentofclarity]

Looks like your mental issues are blocking your brain to think clearly.... I am sorry to hear that. I am guessing so simply because it happens to me a lot and the way you explain this is similar to how I feel...

What you can do is try to take one issue at the time. Even if I know thats what I have to do I can't do it on my own though...so I won't expect you to do it on your own either. Talk to your bf. If he is not the best person to guide you through it think out loud to him about one problem and mention the possible solutions..

Make a priority list... well...essentially you don't need to make a list...just choose the most urgent issue and focus on that.

Reward yourself when you've succesfully taken care of one problem... my favourite is chocolate. ^^

And about your salary... I am sure your work can find a to pay you until you have a working bank account again.