[Toxie55]

I met a man about 15 months ago. We started off in a flirtations relationship
that went on daily for months , every day I saw him and weekends. It was a
sexualized flirtation. I have seen him and he is possessive, into what I wear
and all things like that.
He went out with someone else that lives here and I keep thinking
of him dating women and not asking me out, I just fall apart. I cry-tears come out like a stream. If I try to back off he gets so angry. He will be in area
soon and I would like to see him -but I don't see him asking me out, I know
he feels strongly that I can't see other men. I wish he would call or reach out
to me.
I don't call, email or text him-but he was a friend but I am not coping well
at all - he is out in the area with other women. I am devastated over losing contact with him.
I needed info about something, and emailed someone else about it , not him
in the same company
I stay in and keep shades and windows closed so I feel better. and don't hear him or anything about him.
I need help!

You allowed him to have control and power over your emotions and actions.
You need to become wiser and stronger.

We become wiser and stronger by understanding why and how things happen.
We suffer when we believe and think things that are not true.

[Jcvmsv]

I hurt for you. I'm going through something similar. I wish I had a solution to help us feel better and take control of our emotions. In my case there's a feeling of guilt in that I think I accidentally hurt him as well but am unable to reach him to apologize. Unfortunately we don't have any control over anything in this world except how we deal with things. To be content with ourselves and what life throws at us is the only way it seems that I can survive these situations where I don't have the control. I'm struggling. I'm hurting. My emotions are out of control. All I can do is take deep breaths. Sigh.

[lilypup]

Next time he calls tell him you are done with him. Do it in a polite way, but firm. Stay away from him for thirty days and see how you feel. Otherwise, you'll get sucked into a repeating loop. Do you really want this guy?