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Sep 30, 2014, 10:23 PM
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I hate it I am hurting so much and it is because I care to d.. much about family and friends. If I could just turn these feelings off or at least live moment by moment I think I would be better off.
 It is very possible in the near future someone close to me is going to try and manipulate me in to a bunch of things I am not really going to want to do. It makes me very mad but this is very much a part of this persons personality.  . To be honest they never have been technically diagnose with BPD but rather confident they do have it. They do have depression, anxiety, and now PTSD (direct from the horses mouth) on those diagnoses. I love them dearly but hate watching them going down the wrong path. And for me personally it just makes my depression and anxiety so much worse. Anybody have some tools I can use to protect myself without hurting those involved???? 
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Bonnie _______________________________________________ Dx Major Depression, General Anxiety Disorder, cognitive distortions(pretty bad), & little PTSD for fun Rx Bupropion 450mg (depression), Pristiq-generic 125mg (anxiety & depression), Lamictal 150mg (mood stabilizer) Alprazolam 0.25mg (anxiety plus helps sleep easier) 
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Sep 30, 2014, 10:44 PM
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Well I just got a lecture from my mom about codependency. I'm not saying I have a problem with it, but she says I do. That I inhibit my own health to put others first. I'll definitely be bringing it up with T.
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Sep 30, 2014, 11:35 PM
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If it's something you suspect is about to happen, I'm going to make the leap that you already know the nature of the kinds of things they are going to try to get you to do. In which case: I would suggest simply deciding ahead of time what you're willing to do and what you're not. Use pen and paper to work out for yourself what the absolutely maximum is that you will do, and then make it a firm offer when the time comes, when they start asking or hinting or however that occurs. "What I can do for you is xxx but that's it."
I know it's complicated when it's someone you're close to. Who knows how to pull at your heartstrings, and other strings. In the end though, you're not doing them or your relationship any favors by letting them push you around, though they may not see it that way in the moment. Whatever the cause is, whatever their diagnosis could really be if there is one to be made, for you to be saddled with the experience of feeling manipulated when already struggling with issues of depression is a lot to deal with. Be good to yourself. 
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