[breemarie]

I am overwhelmed with life and tired of fighting. Just want to give up. I don't have the strength anymore. I feel like such a failure that I can't live a normal life and act like a normal person. I can't accept my life the way it is and look at the positive side. I can't see anything positive about my life. My therapist asked me what I am getting out of being depressed and negative and angry. She said I am getting something out of it that is why I am not able to feel hopeful about anything. That makes no sense to me. I am not getting anything out of being miserable. The only thing I'm getting is pain. Why would I want to hold on to that? She said I can change things if I want to. How do you change feelings? How can I stop wanting something, or being angry about something, or being afraid? How??? I'm causing pain for my bf. Every day he tells me he is stressed and overwhelmed and I know it is because of me. I can't stand it anymore. I'm tired of hanging in there.

[WinterRose]

(((((breemarie)))))

[sabby]

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breemarie said:
She said I can change things if I want to. How do you change feelings? How can I stop wanting something, or being angry about something, or being afraid? How???

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((( breemarie ))) I'm sorry you are feeling so overwhelmed and tired. I think what your therapist is saying is that in order to feel better, you need to take steps in that direction. You may not be able to change certain feelings, but taking a good long hard look at a feeling and understanding why you feel a particular way can put you on the path to getting past the feeling that is holding you back.

Sometimes what we think we want in life is not what we really need in life. Many times we may get what we think we want only to find that it is hollow and not at all what we thought it would be. Analyzing wants compared to needs may help.

After taking a long hard look at things and analyzing things, your anger and fear may start to go away. I think they tend to go hand in hand. At least that has been my experience. I may be totally off base in your situation.

I hope you find some relief soon. Sending good vibes your way!

*Gentle Hugs*
J

[Butrfyy]

its a lot harder to get better when you arent fighting for it. you can keep going. you've made it this far and youre here getting support.

just keep working for it. good luck.