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Nov 02, 2014, 10:12 AM
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I just need a bit of advice. I have been seeing a therapist for about 10 months and I have a real hard time talking and being honest about how I feel. I get so stuck in the moment and fear, shame, embarrassment, and mostly lack of trust seem to get the best of me always. Recently, I have been getting so frustrated at my inability to talk about things that I have been considering walking away from therapy for awhile to see if that could give me some relief. I'm really struggling right now and thought walking away might help. It doesn't really make sense that it would, and it possibly is just me avoiding things that are not easy. I sent an email to my tharapist last week and she suggested we talk about it at our next appt which was yesterday. At the appt she just wanted to encourage me to do whatever I thought best for me, and was concerned that if I walked away that I would then have no support at all because I don't really talk to anyone about my struggles. She suggested that maybe I try to attend a group setting in a 12-step program or something like that. I told her the thought of a group was too scary for me and she suggested that if I was comfortable with it that I could go with her to her group, and that we could just go as friends, and see if that could be helpful to me. I reluctantly agreed and met her an hour later at the group meeting, and though I wasn't able to talk in the group, it did open my eyes to the unparalled beauty of imperfection in people who are struggling, just like me. In hindsight, I know that was her intention, and as we left she asked me if I would come back next week. I honestly can't see myself, in the near future being able to talk in a group setting, perhaps it's just the tincture of time. I don't know. For whatever reason, my fear of judgement, and lack of trust, that have prevented me from being able to open up in therapy with her for these last 10 months seem almost non-existent
today, and I honestly feel like I can make progress in therapy. This is a result of me attending that group meeting last night, with a wonderful group of people. I want, above all, to be respectful of and sensitive to boundaries. I'm just unsure if I can or should attend the groups and individual therapy with her. Would it be appropriate to just share with her what I have shared here with you and see what her thoughts are? |
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Nov 02, 2014, 12:18 PM
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Why dont you print this out and show it to her, if you are not able to talk or articulate what you want to say. I thought I was the only one with communication problems..
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Nov 02, 2014, 12:18 PM
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What was the 12 step meeting for? Like was it AA, NA or what? I hate to say this but it is highly unethical by therapy standards for her to do that. I am sure she only wants to help but why her 12 step group?
If what she did bothers you than yes you should share that with her. If you feel you can make progress with her than that is your call. You didn't do anything wrong. If you find your own support group you don't have to share. Just sit and listen. If someone asks you to share just say I am here to listen. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Nov 02, 2014, 01:38 PM
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Perhaps writing in a journal can help you. Write between sessions and then either show your journal to your T or read it out loud during individual therapy. The great thing about writing, is that you can review your thoughts at a later time.
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Nov 02, 2014, 02:40 PM
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I would just go. I would not think I need to talk next or any time. Just being there could be beneficial for a while. I do not think they will mind if you do not talk for a while. Maybe it is just a little benchmark in your treatment. Just that. Maybe after a while you feel is no longer useful. I would give it a shot. Good luck!
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Nov 02, 2014, 08:13 PM
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it is just a 12 step group for anyone who wants to attend. It is open to anyone who feels that they may benenfit from the 12 step approach. What she did is not bothering me, as I mentioned in my post it was a comforting experience. I came away feeling that if I could sit amongst a group of people an here a bit of their struggles and not feel judgemental that I should be able to expect the same in therapy. This fear of judgement thing has been a huge road block for me. Thank you for your thoughts.
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Nov 02, 2014, 09:07 PM
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By all means then I would highly recommend going. The twelve steps saved my life.
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