Unhappiness

Why do you no longer feel like you belong to something bigger? if I may ask.

Dear brokenentity. I think I know what's going on with you. I think I can explain the "something missing," the "emptiness in you" and I think I know what to do about it too. It took me a very long time to figure this out, but depression, I believe, has a hidden, secret, relatively simple core cause that is at the root of everything that is happening to you.

**Depressives, I believe, have unconsciously turned away from their own inner decision making process.**

Depressives continue to live, but they do not continue to DECIDE. I think that this has happened to you. I think that's why, even though you feel relatively unstressed right now, you can sense that something is wrong. You can sense an inner helplessness. You can sense that if something goes wrong, you will not be able to deal with it. That part of you that decides what happens in your life is VERY important. In a way, it is your own true inner self. In a way, depression is exactly losing contact with your own true inner self. No wonder you feel lost and helpless and you feel like something is wrong.

You can read about this more and find out exactly what to do in this thread

http://forums.psychcentral.com/depre...n-escaped.html

Now, this is all my opinion. However, I really think I am right about this and you'll see in the thread that it has already worked for others as well as for me.

Also, there are a bunch of easy non-drug things that are known to be good for depression:

Exercise
Improving your diet
Optimizing your supplements
Meditation

The thing is, these are all GREAT for you anyway. So what should you do? You should do them all!

One more thing. There are a surprisingly large bunch of medical and specific nutritional issues that can cause depression. For that reason, it's always good to get thoroughly checked out by a Medical Doctor. If you have hypothyroidism or vitamin D deficiency, you will probably need help to figure that one out, and these things happen quite a lot. You can find a partial list that I got from Mark Hyman in post #45 of the above thread.

Also, one other thing I'm noticing with you a little bit is I'm sensing that you're very "good at depression" so to speak. I'm noticing that you have coherent well thought out answers to all of the other responders to your post. You might want to think about this and watch out for it. For some people, they get comfortable and familiar with depression even though it is unpleasant. I think that this might also be reflected in your name "brokenentity". You might consider rejoining this forum with a new uplifting name to symbolize a new upward path.

RIGHT HERE. RIGHT NOW.

I'LL SEE YOU IN HEALTH!! - vital

i am diagnosed with schitzoaffective and schitzophrenia to a slight degree and one of the symptoms is that i need alot of time alone. i do crave people but once in a situation i cant concentrate on conversations. im on 9 different meds and they have helped greatly, but i still feel alone alot, looking for volunteer jobs like i sometimes did in the past. good luck

Thank you very much, I really thank you for your link, I've been following it since the day you PMd it to me. It's kind of hard for me to change, I've been trying to make little changes to how I think and do stuff, and your story does help.

Yes I do believe I need a lot of time alone, it is very important to me. I can get quite agitated when I don't get my lonely time. As for conversations, If i know how someone is doing, I don't ask 'how you're doing?', and some people think it's rude, I guess.

I do like getting on a bus and going to new places where I feel anonymous, since I know that no one will judge me or talk to me for too long. I feel worse when I'm around people I know, I feel like I'm constantly being judged.

I do feel good when I help people, even if it's just giving people directions. I don't like getting too close to people.

I've been reading this thread and it sounds a lot like how I feel. What is happiness? I don't know that I've ever felt it, except for maybe when I was a child and less jaded. I've always felt like something was missing, and I don't know what that something is. I've just never felt comfortable in my own skin and always feel like nothing made sense. I don't have any life goals and I no longer have dreams. I'm kind of searching for a purpose that I've never found.

I know exactly what you mean.

Hi Brokenentity,
First i stop believing in God. In another opportunity, I was very happy while being part of a human rights fight. When we achieved our main goal (an international treaty) groups starting fighting each other and new stakeholders came to the picture, mostly the problems started because of money, then the unity of the movement was gone.

Thank you for sharing. I never felt part of a group, but I did have a friend who shared my views in a lot of things, we had to go our own ways, these days I feel like I have nobody that understands me.