How get good at faking?

Jan 05, 2015, 08:38 AM

When I'm in a severe depression, I think it's impossible to fake it. Someone from AA told me the other day that when I was severely depressed and going to meetings that I just had a dead look in my eyes and overall looked depressed. I didn't realize that. She told me that now (that my depression has improved considerably) my facial expressions are different. I guess my point is, depending on how severe the depression, it may be impossible to fake it.

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Originally Posted by EmpressEugenie1982

I force myself to pick out a cute outfit and fix myself up everyday which helps cover up the sadness. I know what you mean though, pretending to be happy is hard especially when you hurt so deeply underneath the surface. The worst is when you think you found a friend and you slowly share some of your issues with them and you find out they are only comfortable with the happy exterior, the superficial.

I agree that it really sucks when someone you thought was your friend doesn't want to really be your friend because of your mental illness. There is someone in my life who I was very close with from about fifth grade on who I can tell now (we're in our late 40s) just isn't really that into me and is almost disrespectful. Part of it could be because I don't drink anymore and she does, but I think it's because I've been struggling with depression so much over the past year.

Clara22 · Jan 05, 2015, 09:29 AM

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Originally Posted by newgal2

When I'm in a severe depression, I think it's impossible to fake it. Someone from AA told me the other day that when I was severely depressed and going to meetings that I just had a dead look in my eyes and overall looked depressed. I didn't realize that. She told me that now (that my depression has improved considerably) my facial expressions are different. I guess my point is, depending on how severe the depression, it may be impossible to fake it.

I do want to comment on this:

I agree that it really sucks when someone you thought was your friend doesn't want to really be your friend because of your mental illness. There is someone in my life who I was very close with from about fifth grade on who I can tell now (we're in our late 40s) just isn't really that into me and is almost disrespectful. Part of it could be because I don't drink anymore and she does, but I think it's because I've been struggling with depression so much over the past year.

I am like newgal2. Also, when i am really down I don't care about what the other people think about me at all. I just don't. Sometimes it is not intelligent because at work it can be a problem given the stigma of depression. But I can't help.

JustTvTroping · 06:40 PM

6 years for me and probably still counting. It helps to find time alone and just think or listen to some music. I don't remember how I got good at faking everything though. Maybe someday I'll confess to someone that doesn't have an account here (if I don't get better before then), but...I don't think I'll be ready any time soon.
I wish I could say that the facade would actually emotionally help but...that would be a big lie. However, it doesn't seem to be hurting me either.

ajohnson45 · Jan 06, 2015, 08:39 AM

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Originally Posted by newgal2

When I'm in a severe depression, I think it's impossible to fake it. Someone from AA told me the other day that when I was severely depressed and going to meetings that I just had a dead look in my eyes and overall looked depressed. I didn't realize that. She told me that now (that my depression has improved considerably) my facial expressions are different. I guess my point is, depending on how severe the depression, it may be impossible to fake it.

I do want to comment on this:

I agree that it really sucks when someone you thought was your friend doesn't want to really be your friend because of your mental illness. There is someone in my life who I was very close with from about fifth grade on who I can tell now (we're in our late 40s) just isn't really that into me and is almost disrespectful. Part of it could be because I don't drink anymore and she does, but I think it's because I've been struggling with depression so much over the past year.

One of my friends said that last year when he would see me in the hall at school when I was depressed that I looked miserable. I believe it, because I was miserable.

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