[desperado]

Hi everyone who is reading this:

I came across a post a week or so ago concerning men & emotions, particularly the issue of men & crying. I thought it was a great post and I wanted to comment & add my support, but I got busy & it slipped my mind. I forget who the original poster was. Nor can I find the thread.

Does anyone remember it? Remember the forum? Thread name?

Have to run, but just wanted to say: I think that men who have the courage to express their sadnesss/crying openly have NOTHING to be ashamed about.......it is a very strong attribute, imho. I think that society may have less problems if we could embrace this ideal, rather than tend to reject it. (Not all of us reject it, though, I know.....I shouldn't over-generalize).

Anyway. My two cents by,

Des.

[jefftele]

hi des some men do cry it aint part of the western culture though a lot of men suppress their tears with alcohol, work ,aggression, i have wept buckets over losses and my depression i think they are better out but not sure if they are healing i still stuggle with mental health issues would i be worse if i had not cried? don't know .when i cry i feel helpless, not a great situation to be in if i'm not in good company or a safe space.there is an idea that the chemicals in tears are different depending on what you cry about i guess crying is a response to a stimulus--- big subject!!

[desperado]

Hi Jeff,

I know; some men do.....some men feel they can't. I wish I could change that. It must be so difficult. I say kudos to anyone, male or female for crying -- takes courage, but really, it shouldn't...........it's a natural reaction. Just like laughing. ** sigh **

Yes, I feel pretty helpless, too, when I cry. But after, I feel better, usually. If ever you need a friend here when you are crying, PM me & I will try to help.

That is very interesting re: dif chems in tears dep on nature of the cry. I heard that tears actually contain toxins (so as to release them from body).

Wow. Human body is an amazing thing, sometimes.

Take good care, Jeff.

Des

[cajun]

Did all of my crying as a child. Stopped at 14. Just don't think I'm capable of crying anymore.