[drunksunflower]

I just had another absolute revelation about what people REALLY think about this whole stupid thing.

I need a small bish and moan so I hope that I don't upset anyone. I am sorry it's long. I just don't really have anywhere else apprpriate to vent.

I just had a humungous fight with a guy I was friends with from a hiphop board ... some of the best hiphop comes out of texas so ... yea. i check it sometimes.

Anyway he was all about coming down and ripping some stuff up here (he's an emcee). So in the interests of promotion I was like cool dude check out the board that many of my IRL friends spend time on. It's just entertainment / music / dance music / discussion. A lot of people I know are DJs and promotors so i thought it would be useful for him to have contacts.

Anyway we MSN'd for a while and cos well you know how it's safer to talk to people online sometimes ... I did tell him about the depression thing. And he was cool, cos I was I guess noticeably blah at times. He asked so seeing as I figured it was a long time till I'd ever see him IRL it would be safe enough.

Anyway then he turns out to be a real plonker on the message boards, insulting NZ stuff, getting offended at anything he saw as anti american. Now I can have a real potty mouth when I get feisty but ... this was over pretty normal stuff in an un-emotionally charged environment. And then emo at me for not 'sticking up for him'. Ummm hello. You're an adult and you're supposed to be here making contacts ...

Long story sorry but just now he grabbed me on gmail chat (which i shouldn't even be on at work) and ripped into me about how I am a princess and a snob and the fact that i had 'depression' was TOTALLY STUPID and it was pathetic and sad to have something like that ... and i had no excuse.

this is the second time I've been told this recently (my other friend was talking in relation to himself and not wanting to give in to ADs after a marriage breakup where the wife has now gone off men completely).

But sheesh I had not even talked to this guy in a few weeks, not argued, just told him to be a bit nicer to people he expects to help him with beats and gigs one day in another country. He just literally randomly jumped online and went mental. I wonder if he's on crack.

Seriously though, for some people it's clearly just an insult to call someone 'depressed'. I thought he understood and I didn't ever press the issue conversationwise, we haven't talk about it for months. I have had a weird day and that was just the icing on the cake.

The worst thing ... now that I can laugh about it ... is that his hiphop isn't even any good. In fact, his beats are off and his rapping is out of time too.

Anyway I don't know ... things like this just reinforce that it's stupid to tell people. god i wonder how long he thought i was pathetic before he said it today.

guess you learn something new every day ...

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[Juliana]

He sounds like a total jerk.

I don't think it's stupid to tell people... I think it just goes badly when you tell STUPID people. Anyone who is worth your time and energy and worthy of your trust will be understanding of your condition.

The fact that he considers calling you depressed an INSULT just shows how small-minded he is. That's like trying to insult someone by telling them they're diabetic. It's just ridiculous.

I'm sorry that someone you thought could be a friend turned out to be a loser. (((Hugs))) Lots of people AREN'T like him, though. Lots of my friends know about my depression and anxiety and they are extremely supportive and understanding. I hope you have some people like that IRL... You definitely have lots of those kinds of friends here.

[drunksunflower]

thank you and i know it sounds like i am making it a big deal but i was just kinda ... i mean i've tried to help him musically through a few intros and got friends to his myspaces and stuff ... this was never a big part of our friendship at all, obviously. I think we only talked about it once or twice months ago. still stuck in his nasty little mind it seems

he can call me a princess till the cows come home - i am one to some degree at times :>

but i just kinda would have preferred ... a more original insult? lol.

i used a few nasty words back i think i was entitled this time :>

[drunksunflower]

I can't work out how to block gmail and i have a barrage of emails saying 'you know i'm right'.

I only blocked the chat thing i think...

lame *** technophobe skills

[Juliana]

You were totally entitled to use some nasty words. Good for you. There's nothing wrong with being a princess. LOL. I'm a princess too.

It sounds like you feel betrayed and you're kind of angry at yourself for trusting him and trying to help him. I can totally understand that feeling... It sucks.

[Juliana]

I don't use gmail. Is there a way to tag his address as spam and have it go automatically to the junk folder?

[drunksunflower]

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You were totally entitled to use some nasty words. Good for you. There's nothing wrong with being a princess. LOL. I'm a princess too.

It sounds like you feel betrayed and you're kind of angry at yourself for trusting him and trying to help him. I can totally understand that feeling... It sucks.

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Oh hey princess ...

Oh I just feel silly. I liked the guy, I always think if you can hook anyone through contacts you should ... and that sort of thing comes back round you know? It's certainly happened for me in the past.

This kinda reaffirms my decision to not tell anyone IRL ever again (I think I told two ever and one is the ex who I don't really hang out with anymore - the other is in Australia - lol).

If people get like this online about it then sheesh I wouldn't like to hear it any closer.

*sigh*.

stupid people don't rock.

[drunksunflower]

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I don't use gmail. Is there a way to tag his address as spam and have it go automatically to the junk folder?

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haha sexcellent it is junk mail!

i got six emails in the last hour ...

some people never give up ...

[nothemama8]

can you have his addy marked as spam?
you are quality ppl here and never forget how valuble you are here without your support others with depression won't grow
Angie

[nothemama8]

bump

[drunksunflower]

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[drunksunflower]

Another six million emails trying to 'explain'.

E.g.

"Surely you can understand that people get upset and make mistakes sometimes? I don't deserve to be judged for that."

I tend to get upset and then over it quite easily but I dunno ... I can forgive the other stuff ez I AM a principessa sometimes and I can be snobby and I can be other things. That's sweet as I have probably said much nastier things to people in my time. Why would you say stuff you don't mean about something you know is the most embarrassing thing in the world for someone ... MEH.

Maybe I am just making a mountain out of a molehill.

I am sorry to keep this stupid thread alive but I am sick of the emails (ok my curiousity overpowers my desire to get rid of it).

[Juliana]

I don't think you're making a mountain out of a molehill. What he said to you was a very low blow. That says a lot about the kind of friend he is capable of being. It's obvious that he's willing to hone in on what he thinks is your "weak" spot and try to hurt you when he gets upset. That's not okay.

I'm all for forgiveness. I have forgiven many people for many things. I don't forget, though. People who make a point of trying to hurt me don't get a chance to do it again.

[drunksunflower]

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I don't think you're making a mountain out of a molehill. What he said to you was a very low blow. That says a lot about the kind of friend he is capable of being. It's obvious that he's willing to hone in on what he thinks is your "weak" spot and try to hurt you when he gets upset. That's not okay.

I'm all for forgiveness. I have forgiven many people for many things. I don't forget, though. People who make a point of trying to hurt me don't get a chance to do it again.

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as usual you make sense of things thank you.

i know his sore spots ... like it has taken him way too long to finish his college degree ... i couldn't bring myself to say something crappy to him about that though ... which would prolly affect him in the same way.

ah well maybe i will just get over it and be careful in what i tell him in future...