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There's this guy at work who won't leave me alone. I had been interested in him until I found out that he's married, but he won't leave me alone now and I'm scared to say anything because I was the one initially hitting on him. He makes vulgar remarks now and keeps bothering me to have sex with him in the office when no one is there. It's gotten to the point that when I know I'm alone, I lock my office door and turn up a video on YouTube really loud to make it seem like I'm web-conferencing. And if I have an excuse to get out and go out to eat (if I'm not broke), then I will. It's my own fault for hitting on him, but he wears no wedding ring, and I found out through a coworker that he is married when I heard him talking about the guy's wife and kids. I talked to my supervisor about it, and he said not to do anything because I was the one who started it, and since he's the cousin of our program's director, they likely wouldn't do anything, but it could be bad for my job. I also found out that the guy is a registered sex offender from another coworker, so I went online to see if it was true, and it is, he is listed. What should I do? This is pretty much my fault. But I don't know how to undo it.
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This is NOT your fault, he wants you to believe that and other people who say that are colluding with him. This is how abusers work.
You have a coworker who told you about his being registered as a sex offender, could you confide in this worker? You need to tell someone, this can't go on and as Rohag suggested get some legal advice. Please believe me, a total stranger, thousands of miles away, this is in no way, shape or form your fault. |
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I might confide in the other coworker. We are good friends and I do trust him. I'm going to see what he would recommend as far as legal help on the reservation. The man is a Cherokee and I work on the reservation. My boss thought it could have bad consequences for my job if I went to a higher up person bc he is related to our director and apparently some councilman. So I've been paranoid to say anything to anyone. If Co could just get the guy to leave me alone from now on then that would solve it, but if he takes revenge, or if he tells someone that it was me doing it to him, etc, then I really will need a lawyer. I don't know how the legal system works on the res, but I'll see where I need to go.
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