Who wants to talk about... crying.

So yes, I kinda wanna get into people's business about crying (but only if they want to share). Because it isn't something I see talked about much on here. I mean, it gets mentioned of course, but I haven't seen anyone talk about crying much in-depth. Who wants (or needs) to talk about crying?

I feel a really big need to talk about it right now, for reasons I don't really know. I feel on the verge of tears today. I had a bit of eye-leakage earlier. I feel like I need to have a big, snotty cry but I just can't.

And also, most of us cry about depressing things, right? But for me it seems like beautiful things are what make me want to cry - like sunlight on grass/through trees, or flowers, or children playing. Those things tear me up and I don't know why. I also cry about very small things.

Who feels like they need to cry but just can't? I once had a whole 2 and a half year period where I could not cry, though many times I wanted to (and felt I needed to). Then something awful happened which made me able to cry again, and now I cry a lot more than I used to.

I've suddenly developed this pervasive sadness and cried myself to sleep the other night. I know. Boo hoo. I want to cry right now but can't because my three year old is here. A good sob feels nice. I think it's healthy to let out emotions. Beautiful things make me cry too.

I have a really hard time crying even though I feel like I want to. The last time I had a good ole cry was in November and I was in the ER waiting to be transferred to inpatient. I cried for hours because they baker acted me and I didn't need to be, I was there willingly and had brought my stuff to check in, I wasn't planning on going anywhere.

It sucks because I feel better after crying.

It's a rare occasion that I have a really good cry. Every other cry is just 3 to 4 tears and it ends. I barely cry anyway, but I kept hoping that the biggest cry would have been the most detoxifying. That didn't work.

I rarely cry. I tear up on occasion, but I don't to the whole ugly-face cry thing. And SPG, beautiful things choke me up too. Excellence chokes me up, like seeing a beautiful gymnastics routine or ice skating routine. But I don't really cry when I'm sad. It plugs me up and puffs my face up (you'll understand this a bit more when you are wrinkly like me)

I used to cry quite a lot, hormonal mainly. I'd feel horrible, cry for hours and still feel horrible afterwards.

When I'm anxious I cry, a big snotty cry. When I'm depressed the tears trickle down my cheeks but I don't do the snotty stuff.

I've had periods when I can't or don't cry, but at the moment I'm in a crying phase. Everything, good, bad, sad, exciting, funny, nasty, whatever, makes me cry

It's natural for emotional extremes to bring tears. A few years ago when I was going thru "the change", I had extreme mood swings. I'd cry at commercials, if someone was randomly nice to me, anything remotely emotional. I find it funny now, but at the time it was exhausting. I'm pretty much back to normal now...for me.

As a general rule, crying is cleansing, both emotional and physical. It does feel good to just cry sometimes. Just like anything else, if it is causing you distress or affecting your life, tell your doctor.

Prior to my diagnosis, I cried all the time. Mostly sadness I guess. That unexplained depression for years and years. After I got help and meds, I rarely cried. Like I was emotionally numb. My life now, I cry a lot. Depressed, stressed and extremely overwhelmed. Sometimes it's small tears. But I can feel it building for days, or weeks before and I'll have a complete breakdown, sobbing type tears. And it might last hours, subside briefly and continue the next day. I really don't like to cry. I hate getting all snotty. Especially if I don't feel better afterwards.

The last time I cried was about five months ago over my ex girlfriend. Other than that, I have been unable to do more than tear up occasionally.

Hugs to all! I had the best cry over a friend's happy child birth recently. It was like the best laughing. But when I have the tearful days of my leaky depression, the crying is very different. My gut hurts all the way to my head. I don't laugh so mournfully, but I suppose it's possible. Seems like I cry more easily with emotions of all sorts as I get older.

Throughout this whole depression, which I think has lasted at least a year now, I haven't cried once. I often feel like crying, but the tears just won't come.

This is a link to my thread about not being able to cry:

http://forums.psychcentral.com/depre...y-anymore.html

The last time I cried was very intense, and left me in major depression for about a week or so, and I even skipped college for three solid days. I cried because professor confused the highest midterm grade in class with mine. I was happy but he was wrong, even though my grade was 18 out of 20. That made me cry after not being able to for years. The last time I cried before that, I was a kid. Now I am 21, and wish that I could at least just get a prick of tears.

I cry mostly in therapy.

Crying is something that I do too much. And most of the time I have no good reason to be crying.
I just get by myself and usually think about myself. This depression thing has me thinking about myself, and I don't know how to stop. Things that use to be important to me are not anymore and I feel useless. My life I have screwed up. I seem to be incapable of loving my family the way I should. I try to do and be what I should, but it's a constant effort. Sorry if I got off topic. Anyway, as far as crying goes, here is a A-one water spigot.

I can't remember the last time I cried. Sometimes I want to but I just feel numb

last Friday i sobbed through my entire therapy session... okay, so it was PMS (i didn't realise) and i really freaked my T out since i never cry, but it was so good for me. a massive weight was lifted off my shoulders.

When the crying spell hits, I have some control over it. It's fine when that happens in a privacy of your own home, but in public like when I'm at work, it's not acceptable. At times, this emotional hurricane comes out of nowhere, I try to avoid anyone or anything by searching for places that I can be alone. Any noise, touch or even smell could set me off, all I can do in that situation is to put on my headphones and blast some music and ride it out. It's like this natural disaster of the century are waiting to engulf me from every which direction. Oh, there goes another tsunami warning, yup, my defense goes up to a defcon 1, call the pentagon for nuke strike (my anger)and, I just brace myself. (I don't use bathroom for refuge, I don't particulaly feel safe there.) I'd be so volatile, fragile, a complete mess, so expect the unexpected.

Crying is a danger zone for me, for your own safety and mine, I expect everyone to stay the F away when I'm like that.

Long ago, I used to cry over my sadness, inadequacy or whatever along those lines. I'm through with all of that...at least I hope that I have as much control as I think I have over those useless outburst. Strength. That's probably the only good thing you can take away from, so find it and get the **** out of there ASAP. I don't wanna dwell too much for just cleansing feel effect. Then I think what's the purpose of us crying? The purpose of me crying? I still haven't figure that out yet.

I'm a lonely person, that alone doesn't make me cry but when I do, no one would understand it. Example. I almost cried when I saw this smilie () yesterday. It'll be too darn long and complicated to explain my thought process, plus it's private. I try to keep it to myself, because I see it as me being weak and infantile. I may have a little bias against people crying especially when I don't understand why. My mother does cry in front of me, bursts into tears and call me emotionless. That did it. No one, absolutely no one can call me emotionless, I get so furious, even murdorous. (can I say that?)

I apologize for this bad English and incomprehensible long winding post.

@ShyPoetGirl
you don't know me but you can cry and I like you. I had to say something. I have a hunch that if I read all of your past posts, you gonna make me cry over and over, so I'm treading carefully getting to know you. Thanks for this interesting thread. When people cry, it's interesting. Say, a girl is crying at a boy band concert 'cos she's so happy. This is like I refuse to understand you but hey, you got something. No, no I'm not judging, is it written on my forehead? And to answer your second question, I become this shell of a person when depressed, crying? what is that?

Anyways, I too sometimes find myself crying over beautiful things, and I don't know exactly why. You either cry or feel like crying, because you want something, right? I also get this bitter after taste after crying like something's lacking. I'd love to see more in depth discussion on this subject. Most of us have been talking about us crying. What would be your reaction to others crying? What would you do to that person? Wouldn't it be a risky proposition to talk to somebody who's crying, if you can't share the cause of it at the same wave length?

Edit:
Could someone explain sympathy to me in this context? Yay or Nay??
Can you shed tears for someone? (Sry about this overloaded questions..)

I cry a lot recently..specially before sleep because i go through the of mental torture every day..its a none stop hell..and the worst of it is my morning anxiety attacks..

this is exactly me..its so devastating..i just want this hell to be over with before i commit suicide

Crying is natural....frowned upon more when men do break down.....I had an uncontrollable bout last night...after talking to my sister about my brother who is sick....its okay to cry....it releases feelings that can bottle up and bring you down...just about crying now....comes and goes....

Crying tears of blood as we speak.......

Thank you everyone for responding. I guess everyone has a different ways of crying. Right now I want to cry but just can't seem to do it. Also, something I didn't mention in my original post: I cannot cry comfortably in front of others. I'm sure many others are like this.

Most of the times when I feel the urge to cry I can't because of my living situation and others in the house. Not being able to cry when I want makes me want it even more. I feel better after a long, loud cry. Sometimes I cry of sadness, sometimes of happiness, sometimes both at the same time for different reasons. It's so confusing at times.

My dad passed away 15 years ago. I couldn't cry that day and haven't been able to in all the years since, not even in private. Two therapists have explained the idea of giving myself permission to cry. I've read the same idea variously worded a thousand times. I get it on an intellectual level, but that's all.

I just hate the post-crying headache and 2 hours of non-stop runny nose, so I choose not to do it, even if the urge to do it is there. I get a full-blown migraine every time. Forget that, I'll just stick with the bitterness and resentment instead. Probably not the healthiest way of handling things, but whatever.