Sons first birthday is also making me depressed.

My son's first birthday party is on the 26th, and I'm starting to get really depressed about it. My boyfriends family is great, if have no problems with them what so ever.
the problem is my family. My dad passed away last September and it broke my whole family up with fights and everything. My dad and I'd were fighting and it didn't see him because he had cancer, and in my own ****ed up way it was so my memories of us werenot him being so close to death,
Anyways, so this leads to have to invite only certain family embers on my side. Which is all fine and dandy. Because it know a lot of people say it - but it legitimately don't care about my family. Mostly because the way it was brought up. So only two members from my side will make it.
on top of it, it's my mother's birthday but she legally can't go because of an altercation with my younger half sister and she isn't allowed to be around children who can't defend themselves. (Nothing sexual, it was violence) and it makes me really sad because my whole life i favored my mom and wish she could go so bad. I'm know even if she could she wouldn't because she'd feel too uncomfortable, which i totally understand. But it sucks that i have to deal with these people from my family that is can't stand and wish my mother could be there for my son -her only grandchild first birthday.

stephifaye, so sorry for the loss in your family and the resulting fracture.

There are no easy solutions, but here are a couple technology work arounds to include your mother.

A live Skype conversation between your mother and her grandchild. So both would need to have the latest version of Skype operational since Microsoft took over Skype - try testing Skype out a couple days before to make sure it works. Have your mother on the phone the day of the party and set up Skype and test it then, then leave it on until the time for sharing.

If that is not possible have someone take movies with their digital camera or cell phone. Make sure you have cables to download to your laptop or take your mother the phone and show her as soon as you can.

That is one way your mother could participate.

A complicated family...
Great ideas!

Electronic or otherwise, efforts on your part to bring something of the celebration to your mother would probably be most welcomed by her.

May the day be wonderful for you all!