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Apr 28, 2015 at 05:56 AM
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Hey guys,
I've been battling depression for a few years now and I can't tell when I'm actually happy about something or whether I've just got good at faking happiness for others sake? Just wondered if anyone else is like this or if there is a way to figure out what it is? Thanks! Joojams - Sent using my tablet on Tapatalk! |
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Apr 28, 2015 at 06:40 AM
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I don't have any words of advice, but I feel the same way. I don't know how to feel happiness anymore, or if I am, I have a hard time believing it is real.
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Apr 28, 2015 at 10:14 AM
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Apr 29, 2015 at 07:37 AM
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Sometimes you fake happiness or keep smiling when it in reality its not that funny or entertaining, just for the sake of not disappointing the other person. You feel as if you are scared of disappointing another, this is nature of a selfless human being.
 You could try not giving a **** at all and see what happens. Its like holding your frame and observing what happens. Maybe it will lead you to true happiness. |
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Apr 29, 2015 at 11:32 AM
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I don't feel like I actually am happy ever anymore. I think I pretend to be for the sake of others a lot, but I don't really even now what real happiness feels like anymore. Sorry, I don't know how to tell the difference between the two.
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Apr 29, 2015 at 12:49 PM
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I can't tell when I'm actually happy about something or whether I've just got good at faking happiness for others sake? - I am pretty sure you would recognise true happiness. Are other people truly convinced you are happy when you are faking it - I would guess 'not entirely'?
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Apr 29, 2015 at 01:39 PM
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I don't know if they know I'm truly happy or not, I guess sometimes they may think so but Yea, don't know
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Apr 29, 2015 at 03:39 PM
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When the laugh is real -I feel it. Being happy and being content??? Not sure anyone is really happy all the time. There are times I have to pretend at the job when I work with people - sometimes that is so draining and other times it is good - very real.
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Apr 30, 2015 at 07:18 AM
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I can tell when I'm really happy and just faking it, I fake it usually when I don't want to disappoint someone or if I want to seem approachable. This is usually when I'm in a crowd, I'm genuinely happy around pets, or with 1 or 2 people I really like.
Real life is a bit like acting to me, I'm just playing a role I don't like. |
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