[RACEKA]

I've been seeing a T now for over a year. I also see a Pdoc for meds. I am so attached to my T. I come from an abusive family and marriage. I'm all alone now. Talking to my T just makes me feel so good.

I couple of weeks ago it came up how eventually I would be terminated from therapy. He feels it's unethical to keep someone on forever. I want it to be my decision. Even if I only see him once a month, at least I know he's there for me.

I didn't go to work all week last week because of this. I saw my T yesterday and told him how I felt. He thinks it's because he's the first person I trusted and opened up to. He's been pushing me to make other relationships which I started doing. I felt so good after talking to him, then about 5 hours later it hit me again. It's now coming in waves. I can't stop crying about this.

I just feel my world is going to fall apart if I don't see him. I'll go back to my old behaviors without him. I would love to cut now, but because of him I won't. I don't know when he will term me. He says he's not cutting me off now. I just can't get this out of my head that eventually this will be over..
I'll be seeing my Pdoc tomorrow and talk to him about it, but he's there for meds, not counseling.

I don't know how to get over this.

So Depressed I can't move.

((((((((RACEKA)))))))))) I hope you're feeling better. I'm sorry you're feeling so bad. Just try to remember that it does come in waves and you'll be feeling a little better soon. Please, try to hang in there.

[Amie2]

Raceka,

I'm sorry you are feeling so poorly. I so get how you feel. I would feel exactly the same way. My one thought is how about getting a new therapist who doesn't have a timeline or just planning that for when the time does come. It might still be hard (likely actually) but at least you'll have a back up.

Amie2

[Perna]

Termination is hard to work with but it's a part of therapy like all the other hard things? I helped myself toward the end by reminding myself when I got too anxious and sad that it wasn't happening "yet" that I still had this session, this week, this month, etc. Maybe have a conversation and get some idea of what time frame he's talking about? It was better for me when I had a clue when rather than just have it hanging over my head like it could be any moment. My T gave me almost a year and a half's notice and we kind of went at the decision together, she gave me her thoughts and listened to mine, etc. She retired. But from then on I worked at it, chipped away at the fears and pain, etc. and it worked fine. I was still very sad since I enjoyed therapy and got a lot out of it (and had been going 9 years) but I also knew I had good skills and resources now and could continue on my own.

[Wants2Fly]

Hello -- I am so sorry that you are feeling so badly. I understand what it is like. This disease is a lifetime problem, it seems, with periods of remission and then it comes back.

(((((((((((((((Raceka)))))))))))))))))))

I don't understand why a T would terminate you after a year, which does not seem very long to me. Is this an insurance thing? It takes a long time to develop a good relationship with a T. I have been seeing mine since 2000. I do not see her all the time, and I have moved away, moved back, and see her very infrequently indeed now. I think I hadn't seen her for about a year when I went back recently.

When I moved to New Orleans from Florida, she even phoned me there a couple of times to make sure that I was okay. She does these phone calls without pay!

I don't really understand why your T would do this. I can understand making the schedule less frequent . . .

[Fuzzybear]

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