[MoonSunn]

I've noticed that for a long time I haven't had a real human connection. Now and then, perhaps once a week, I get to see someone. Mostly the talk is around my past and my present situation of solitude. Leaves me drained and there's no further interest from either party.

I forgot what people usually talk about. I belong to no group, I venture many but can't catch their vibe. There aren't any places near by I could go and meet new people. I know many many people but noone I could relate to. I think I'm trying to re-live my teens when I should be growing past them.

I picked up my past habit of internet browsing and forum venturing and I sit at home all day. I'm too drained for anything more complex like finding some sort of hobby, lectures, classes etc. I don't work and go to school

P.S. As I was typing this someone called me and invited me out. Lets see how it turns out

[TheLifeFantastic]

It's a terrible situation to be in. About 3 months ago I lived out in the middle of nowhere, and I didn't really spend any social time with people. It wasn't until I left the place that I was social again. I just forced myself to leave that town, and go somewhere new. I think for me the new setting stimulated me, and made me want to be more social with people.

I know this not everyone can do this, but if possible leaving town every once in a while might help. It's nice to meet people that you have absolutely no connections too. Have you tried going to any meet ups or don't kill me for saying this a church? Where I use to live churches where a very important place to meet people. Your not going to like every group out there, but forcing yourself to go out, and talking about new things is one of the best things you can do with being lonely.

Of course I only know what works for me. I hope the best!

[Fizzyo]

Hi I often find I run out of conversation because, having been low for so long my horizons have shrunk and I feel I never have news. I try to get other people to talk about themselves, sometimes easier said than done but takes the pressure off me a bit and people like being listened to. It can be very hard work thinking of things to ask, but at least gets me contact.
May be little help to you, but hope went ok with your visitor. Try not to judge it too harshly as, if you're low, you may only see the worst, but if they came to see you they must see something likeable in you and that's worth thinking on. I try to almost make it a mantra, '_______ wanted to see me, they must see something in me they like'. Best wishes

[Sirensong18]

I'm sorry you're feeling so lonely. I'm right there with you that after so long of being isolated, you forget how to "talk" to people. I feel like the few times a year that I do get to go out and be social, I never know what to say to people beyond the typical small talk. Small talk doesn't make me feel a connection though, it's just the standard bs everyone says to get by. I wish I could talk with people about things that actually matter, or have conversations of substance.

Hugs.

[meganb22]

I can relate. When I was in high school because of some mood issues I was home schooled. Before that I really only had a couple friends. After I left, I only had one and she and I were drifting. It was difficult to get back into talking to people and reaching out. I am still figuring out how to do it today. I feel awkward and weird. But I have gotten better, it just takes a little practice and some times. Good luck!

[littletinyrock]

I'm sorry you're struggling, MoonSunn. I know how it feels to not know how to engage with people anymore, forgetting what it is they talk about. Looks like a lot of other people here have had similar experiences.

Sometimes, as hard as it is, doing more with people can help with that exact problem. Even if it's awkward at first, the more you do, the more you'll have to talk about the next time you see them. Talking about shared experiences and things that are similar to those shared experiences is one of the building blocks of social interaction. ("Remember when we did X? Well, I did X again with...") The advice Fizzyo gives to ask other people about themselves is really good, too.

It can be so hard to get back into the swing of things. To remember how to connect. To break down the walls depression builds around us. All we can do is keep trying. Please remember you're not alone in this struggle.

[MoonSunn]

Thanks for all your good wishes and advice! I'll browse this section more often and try to read other stories, I've found the entire forum very helpful so far..

I went out and it went well, I had a good time + we made some future plans, it's starting to look better

I spent enough time in solitude to know it's good to see a friendly face

[Fuzzybear]

[meganb22]

I'm so glad that you went and had fun! I've been trying to do that more lately, too!