[Kittenlover1993]

Hello I am so sad can someone help me
I am 22 and I feel so unhappy and lost and feel like my life is ruined and there is no hope for me. I have no family only my dad and my mom died last year so now every time I'm at home I feel so lonely because I'm always on my own and wish I could talk to my mom when I'm upset and I feel so empty because I know it's not possible I don't believe in the afterlife so. Not many people bother with me either I have a few friends but mostly talk to them on Facebook, I don't see them often. I also went through a very bad heartbreak that I am still in pain from , from two years ago. The guy I was with broke up with me and I was heartbroken I loved him more than anything and I didn't want it to be over, I loved him so deeply I still think about him every day even though we don't speak anymore and it causes me pain my life just isn't how I planned out to be a few years ago, in a perfect world my mom would still be alive, my friends would bother with me more and I would still be together with him but I have literally lost everything , I have tried dating other people only to not feel anything for them and reject them. I just don't think I can come back from this I. Have really tried :/ is there any hope for me will I ever be happy again because for so long I have been so down and depressed, for two whole years the joy out of life is gone, nothing makes me happy anymore or can satisfy me, not go,I days, not money, not material things, not going out on cool day trips that other people would enjoy nothing helps me I just want to be happy like everyone else I'm so jealous of other people I wish I was somebody else who enjoys life or I wish that I could have died instead of my mom because my mom didn't want to die and she was always happy and enjoyed everyday I don't see thde point in me being alive. I have felt like this for so long even after seeing therapists, excersising and trying to get out of this and nothing has worked, I just want my old life back basically all I do is go to college , come home go on Facebook and then sleep because sleeping is the only way I can get away from it all , in the holidays I can go days not leaving my room

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I don't what to say. If you'd like someone to talk to, you could always message me or, if you'd rather, me message you. I apologize if I'm not super helpful, but I'm here if you need to talk to someone.

[vital]

Originally Posted by Kittenlover1993

Hello I am so sad can someone help me
I am 22 and I feel so unhappy and lost and feel like my life is ruined and there is no hope for me. I have no family only my dad and my mom died last year so now every time I'm at home I feel so lonely because I'm always on my own and wish I could talk to my mom when I'm upset and I feel so empty because I know it's not possible I don't believe in the afterlife so. Not many people bother with me either I have a few friends but mostly talk to them on Facebook, I don't see them often. I also went through a very bad heartbreak that I am still in pain from , from two years ago. The guy I was with broke up with me and I was heartbroken I loved him more than anything and I didn't want it to be over, I loved him so deeply I still think about him every day even though we don't speak anymore and it causes me pain my life just isn't how I planned out to be a few years ago, in a perfect world my mom would still be alive, my friends would bother with me more and I would still be together with him but I have literally lost everything , I have tried dating other people only to not feel anything for them and reject them. I just don't think I can come back from this I. Have really tried :/ is there any hope for me will I ever be happy again because for so long I have been so down and depressed, for two whole years the joy out of life is gone, nothing makes me happy anymore or can satisfy me, not go,I days, not money, not material things, not going out on cool day trips that other people would enjoy nothing helps me I just want to be happy like everyone else I'm so jealous of other people I wish I was somebody else who enjoys life or I wish that I could have died instead of my mom because my mom didn't want to die and she was always happy and enjoyed everyday I don't see thde point in me being alive. I have felt like this for so long even after seeing therapists, excersising and trying to get out of this and nothing has worked, I just want my old life back basically all I do is go to college , come home go on Facebook and then sleep because sleeping is the only way I can get away from it all , in the holidays I can go days not leaving my room

Hi Kittenlover1993,

I'm so sorry about your Mom and Dad. I lost my Mom recently too and it's not easy.

I was also depressed for a long time in spite of trying most of what was supposed to work (antidepressants, exercise, therapy) and still feeling like I was barely treading water at best. Eventually, however, I had a big breakthrough when I finally figured out exactly what depression is and how it works in my own head. Have a look at these notes and see if they help:

http://egg.bu.edu/~youssef/SNAP_CLUB...0164151576.pdf

They have been used with real patients at a hospital in Boston.

Also, even though you have definite reasons to be depressed, I think that it is always good to check for underlying medical problems that could be dragging you down. I have list of some things to check for here:

http://forums.psychcentral.com/4262681-post105.html

I have one more suggestion:

Add something to Rand's thread http://forums.psychcentral.com/depre...-grateful.html if you can.

- vital

[francisR]

Hi Kittenlover

I am sorry you lost your mom. And for the breakup with your boyfriend. Do you think that the medication is doing a good job for you or that it needs to be looked at the Dr. could help with that?

Are you in therapy? If therapy. has not worked. perhaps it is because it was not the right therapy. CBT is quite good and adapted for all known conditions. And acceptance and commitment therapy, which I use is quite good. Also.

There is also CRUSE , which is buried and counseling, and that could help with the loss of your mom and the breakup with your boyfriend

Perhaps you could consider going to the nearest MIND center, which does have free counseling is self referral and there you will meet others service users. They do have women's groups. And you will have the opportunity to make new friends. And service users do make the best friends. We understand each other and are all in the one boat.

There is also the WRAP program. That is the wellness recovery action plan, which is run by your health trust. This enables each participant to formulate their own wellness plan for keeping themselves well. And again. It will afford the opportunity to make new friends. Your doctor or your health trust should be able to inform you about that.

Perhaps dating someone else is not the best idea till you have recovered from the breakup. But yes, there is plenty of hope for you. If you get good therapy to manage symptoms and good medication. Many people have come back from the most serious breakdowns to full recovery. And it is possible for us also.

It is quite useful to have a consuming purpose in life. Which could be a charitable cause, or the reconnection with something that fired you up in earlier times. That will give satisfaction and fulfillment to life. I hope and pray you feel much better soon. God bless and best wishes from your friend Francis

[CANDC]

Hi kittenlover. Welcome to Psych Central. My heart reaches out to you in empathy for all you are going through in grief and depression. Since you are feeling so challenged by the loss and having survivor's remorse, about you living and not your mom, it would be wise to have a safety plan on their own or with the doctors or therapists that are on your team. Many people here seek professional help like therapist or psychiatrist.

Here is more on a safety plan. Psych Central - Search results for Creating safety plan

They also find they can share these feelings at Psych Central and what they are going through with the confidence that people go through similar things and can empathize. So many forums are offered as well as Chatrooms (after you have 5 posts or comments on others posts). Anxiety Wednesday at 8PM EDT but I hear is going to be moving to Friday nights at the end of September.

You can also be an active member in other ways like supporting others in their questions, reading articles and posts http://forums.psychcentral.com that are applicable to your area of concern.

Please feel free to private message me or any of the Community Liaisons by left clicking on the name in blue to the left of their post) for questions or just to share.

Other lifestyle changes that help me are doing yoga, exercises, mindfulness, calm music, and being active on Psych Central.