why does nothing seem to help?

I wish that someone could help me, no one seems to listen and no one seems to care. And here I am on the internet reading forums, typing responses and then deciding not to post it because whats the actualy point?

I just want to stop having to deal with the continuous pain, I just dont know what to do anymore and how to keep floating I am absolutely exhausted on every single level.

If you have any ideas on how to stop feeling defeated thats not see your dr or try changing your meds let me know. . . at this stage I am open to anything.

then deciding not to post it because whats the actualy point? - Just do it, you never know what insightful person might read and respond.

one can only try right?

hi Ifonlyyouknewm
research has shown that the combination of medication and therapy is the best for keeping depression and anxiety. under control.
Meds just take the edge off depression, but will not take it away. Whereas therapy does give the skills to successfully manage it so that most of your time will be comparatively symptom-free.
I do have dysthymia, which is continuous depression, if left undealt with it would be sheer hell to live through. So what I do is use the skills from acceptance and commitment therapy. That means I say to myself, I am experiencing depression and then watch the symptoms as it disappears from my mind. While at the same time getting on with the business of the day. I keep doing this till they symptoms stop. Which they always do. The thing is that research has revealed that, trying to get rid of symptoms simply doesn't work as it only makes them come back again stronger. What does is accepting them in dealing with them as outlined. We need to program ourselves which takes a little time to respond to awareness of symptoms. In this way. This does demand perseverance and determination to keep working at it. And it is this that leads eventually to bringing it under control and an improved quality of life.

Other than that there is WRAP which is the wellness recovery action plan. Most states will run this. It is an eight week two hour course. This enables each participant to construct their own recovery plan to keep themselves well, while at the same time, of course, affording opportunity to make new friends.
Then there is Nami, which is the American Association for the mentally ill and googling them and contacting them will inform you what services are available in your area. They do run peer to peer support groups and connect groups. Also where you live there may be depression drop-in centers or support groups. Having a real purpose in life such as a charitable cause, or indeed reconnection with something that fired you up in earlier times always provide a reason for going on and having and meaningful, fulfilling life. It is important to keep your mind fully occupied doing especially enjoyable things and having activities for each day.

No one is defeated unless they give up trying completely. You are keeping going because you have the courage perseverance and true grit to do so despite the obstacles and you should feel good about this because it is so difficult to do. I really hope and pray everything gets much better for you soon. Have a really great day. God bless and best wishes from your friend Francis

Hi ifonlyyouknewme;

I hear you and I think I can help too. The first thing is that it can be hugely helpful to understand how depression is actually working in your own head. These notes will provide an explanation as to WHY you feel the way you do and will provide something that you can do about it:

http://egg.bu.edu/~youssef/SNAP_CLUB...0164151576.pdf

Here is what I think is the best general plan:

http://forums.psychcentral.com/4262681-post105.html

Notice that there are lots of things that you can try yourself to help depression and these are mostly just great for your health in general anyway. You've got nothing to lose by trying and these often work better than the generic "meds + therapy" approach.

If you haven't done it, though, I still always recommend seeing your regular M.D. to check for purely medical or nutritional issues. If you have hypothyroidism, for instance, you're going to feel tired all the time almost no matter what you do.

- vital

you have to give the meds time to work in order for you to feel better . I had to change meds cuz my therapist told me that the paxil was ineffective for me. so I searched for a psychiatrist and got one . she weaned me off the paxil and got me on Cymbalta and vistaril . I been on these two medications for seven going on eight months . give it some time then ask your pdoc to switch your meds .








Diagnosis: Anxiety and depression
meds: Cymbalta 60 mgs at night
Vistaril 25 mgs 2 x every day for anxiety prn
50 mgs at night

I am not on any meds, I can not take medication & by that I mean no medication at all. from panadol to antibiodics to anesthetics. There is not a medication I have yet "tried" and not had an allergic reaction to it which was much much worse then the porblem we were trying medication for in the first place. So i dont need to give medication time to work as it wont work because im not taking anything. I cant.