[ukflower]

im relatively new to this, i usually post in the anxiety forums but lately i have been feeling really depressed and i dont know what to do. i know that anxiety and depression often go hand in hand, and i feel like i need to let some things out. i recently found out that my boyfriend is moving across the country because his work transferred him and despite constant reassurances from him that thing will be ok, i have fallen into a pit of depression...i cry over the stupidest things, i have been so irritable and mad at him for no reason lately, and even tho part of me wants to do things, all i seem to do is lay around and read/watch tv and be lazy. since i have some anxiety i usually am unable to relax and am always doing things but lately i have just been sleeping way more and just generally depressed. all these things sound like warning signs to me but i dont know if im being over anxious (there goes my anxiety again) about all this. i desperately want to figure out whats going on but am too afraid to open up to a doctor or therapist...talking about my feelings usually makes me squirm. oh and interspersed in all this i can get really hyperactive and come up w/ all kinds of things to do and sometimes i do them but then i come back down and am in a slump again. any advice/suggestions? id love some feedback, sorry for the long rant, i am just at my wits end about now.

[adele96]

oh, i'm going through the same thing. depression/anxiety triggered by relationship. of course i already had depression, but it was inhand, now the bf situation made it worse. as men do, lol. look at every thing that is causing anxiety and making you depressed whether you feel it shoul dbe or not. face those issues. i would be very sad and depressed if my bf moved across the country. that's gonna be tough and i'd be worried that our relationship won't survive etc. i'd have all sortys of worries running through my head, so you're not alone feeling that. it's perfectly normal. but if you feel it's more than you can cope or is normal for you in thses situations then definately go see a doctor.
big hugs.

[jefftele]

i was married 27 years when our relationship hit trouble my ex could only write things on bits of paper and give it me 'i know it was her way off communicating ,but after 27 years it was sad and i couldn't stand it anymore,i am the one with an illness yet i had to do all the running ,one word -----talk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! if you can't ,then what sort off a relationship is it? sorry for being so directive ,but lack of communication ended my marriage and nearly finished me off good luck

[Wants2Fly]

Have you consulted a therapist? I'm sorry you're feeling so down.

[Judith22]

Sorry you are feeling so down ukflower. I know what that is like. You said there is no reason why you would be irritable with your boyfriend, but it's normal to be upset about him moving!! I'm not really sure what kind of advice I can give you, I'm kinda bad at it. But I hope you feel better soon.

[ukflower]

thanks for all the support guys. we have been talking alot about the future and different plans which makes me feel better. one day at a time i guess...