Doctor Gender

Is it weird or uncommon to care about gender when seeking a new therapist?

I've been struggling and so I think I need to be back in therapy. I've been out of therapy and off medications for 8 or 10 years. I'm trying to find a doctor that takes my new insurance. I feel more comfortable talking to a man about my issues.

I found a male psychologist close by on a list from my insurance provider, called to make an appointment and discovered that his office is not near me, the office near me is staffed by someone else, and it is a woman. I'm waiting for a call back to make an appointment. I feel very pessimistic that I'll feel comfortable talking to a woman enough to help me, but it took me so much effort to try to find someone that I figured I should go through with it--assuming they call me back--I think I should just give it a try.

I'm worried that if it doesn't work out I'll be discouraged and won't go for help.

Last week I called the first doctor on my list, left a message, and he never called me back. The rest of the week I lost the incentive to see a doctor. I f had a bit of a meltdown -- severe depressive episode -- at work yesterday and so decided I should try again today with a different doctor.

It isn't weird, I always seek a female doctor. As with male I am not comfortable with.

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They caught me off guard when they switched offices and the gender changed. I'll wait and see what happens next week... If they call me back. Right now I'm not even sure the doctor takes my insurance so I may have to go looking again anyway.

personally i always liked the female doctors. They new to be more in touch with my emotions. I believe women are so much better then it then males are. BUT no why would it be weird? What is weird?

Dexter, you have to go with what makes you feel comfortable. Whatever you feel good with as a medical doctor probably would work as good with a therapist. Just a thought. Hope it all works out for you. tc

I've had both, one female therapist and the latest three were male. I was comfortable with both but what seemed to matter more was if I could be as open as I needed to be about how I was feeling/thinking in order to actually get anything from my sessions. Several times I began therapy but dropped it due to just not being ready to share despite their attempts to build trust with me.
Anyway, now I've been in therapy with a male doctor for some years and have gotten so much out of my sessions for the better. I think that once you do begin sessions again with whomever you have the opportunity to schedule with, your own preference for what's most comfortable for your situation now will probably become clearer to you.

Bottom line it is your preference. There is nothing wrong with preferring a male over a female. Therapy is ment to make you feel comfortable.
Here is a thread for a similar question. There were alot of responses that made me feel better about my choice.

I decided to try to find some more male doctors to try to call tomorrow and the provider finder on my insurance website isn't working.

The first doctor I called, left a message, never got a call back.

The second is the one I'm talking about here, looked up a man but getting an appointment with a woman... IF I ever get a call back from this one.

Now I can't find another option because their website isn't working.

When you're not motivated to get help and have to work up to some energy to have some hope that maybe a therapist would be a good thing and then hit roadblocks and your depression makes everything negative how do you not find that a reason just to quit trying?