[CSneezer1]

Why is it that when you try to reach out to your friends or loved ones, when you are at your utmost worst self and feel like you just can't go on, they tell you: it will get better, tomorrow is another day, "I've been there", etc. and so forth. Ok, to be honest, maybe they don't know what to say OR maybe they just don't really care, but we're told to reach out to people AND boy, have I had my fair share of those people that needed me, but this time when I desperately need someone myself.......I can hear a pin dropping on the floor now, no one is around or to take a phone call or even phone me back, not even a text, why? I'm thinking no one really cares! I feel.......everything BUT Happy today.

[Skeezyks]

Hello CSneezer1: Unfortunately, it has been the Skeezyks' experience that no one really wants anything to do with mental health problems. If it's something concrete that can be "fixed", that's one thing. But if it has to do with mental health... forget it! I think that is a lot of why we're here on PC. Because we have all had the experience of having mental health struggles, we can sympathize & support one another. But, from my perspective, the cold hard reality is the "outside" world just doesn't want to deal with it... I wish you well...

Originally Posted by CSneezer1

Why is it that when you try to reach out to your friends or loved ones, when you are at your utmost worst self and feel like you just can't go on, they tell you: it will get better, tomorrow is another day, "I've been there", etc. and so forth. Ok, to be honest, maybe they don't know what to say OR maybe they just don't really care, but we're told to reach out to people AND boy, have I had my fair share of those people that needed me, but this time when I desperately need someone myself.......I can hear a pin dropping on the floor now, no one is around or to take a phone call or even phone me back, not even a text, why? I'm thinking no one really cares! I feel.......everything BUT Happy today.

in my own experience, i've found that it's mainly because people are 2 busy with their happy and healthy lives to even care

so, let's just say for a moment that their are 2 people.

person 1 has it all- and is loving life, person 2 needs to talk about the way they are feeling

so something like this:

person 2: i'm feeling really depressed, i honestly can't see the point- what should i do?

person 1: well, it will get better. my life's fine, my life's great. i'm not your problem, go tell someone who cares

that's how it's been in my experience.

and i think i've said it in other threads- that's the only reason i joined this site, no one ever cared about my true feelings, and i felt their was nothing left to do but join here.

[ljthepeculiar]

Yeah, no one seems to really notice me much when I'm deep in my misery. I figure about the only way to have someone really try to understand the depths of my despair would be after I'm deceased. But as long as I'm still breathing, no one is coming to help.

[Fuzzybear]

[moon_in_leo]

I am new here. I saw your post and you sounded like me. I am told ......oh your strong you will get through this......you just have to decide to be happy..... I always was the one people leaned on. But now that I desperately need someone they have disappeared. Especially my boyfriend of 10 years he won't take my calls won't respond to text. On top of dealing with this depression I now grieve for my relationship. If that wasn't bad enough I lost my aunt March 30th. I am here because I feel so alone and see that I am not the only experiencing this. Does anyone else get angry because of this?

[CSneezer1]

Skeez.......you get this! Thank you for the replies. To add to the fact that we are "online" to find help or help others; says that we are out there, but Why not in person? While I try to help with advice or listen online, I personally miss the face to face interaction with people. Then when you actually get a friend or family member to listen; they either get that blank look in their eyes or give you so many suggestions, gee you've never thought of those before, yeah right! you wonder why you even bothered in the 1st place.
Shattered....I also felt that way the day I signed up here, because literally no one cared in my living life, as in person to person days. Yes, thank goodness for my mom caring and coming over, even though I cried for her not to, she has enough on her own plate. I have 2 girl friends that listen, 1 who is on meds recently for her own mental health and has marriage issues, etc. The other friend also has marriage issues, but I'm not sure that she gets the whole mental health issues either. She will suggest to me: that God doesn't give us more than we can handle at a time. I tell her, I don't feel like that is necessarily true, at least how I'm feeling and she gets the blank stares. So what I'm saying is while I do have some people in my life, at that time I felt helpless. I couldn't get a hold of them and when I do, well they can't really help me live, if I feel I can't go on. So, I had to look for help elsewhere when somehow this group came up.
lj......I'm sorry to hear that's how you are feeling, only after being deceased to have people care? That makes me so angry, even the discussions when people seem to really only attend a Wedding or a Funeral, then the tears come or the conversations. Why not when you're living and need someone then?
Moon.....Nice to meet you, too bad under these circumstances. Are you not with your bf of 10 years any longer? Sorry to hear about your Aunt! My dear dad passed away 10 years ago and that still upsets me, he was my best friend. I've also heard the: you're strong T, you even have it on your back (Strength tat). Well, that may be so, but I'm also human and I don't have all the answers, especially when my mind isn't doing so well. I'm sure we would all like to decide to be Happy, buy deciding and Doing are way different in my mind. I TRY everyday, doesn't always make it so. I wish more people got that!

Yes. Mention depression and people tend to confuse it with sadness....Totally different.

And empathy is difficult to find these days (I hate saying that). People seem to be rather self-involved. I blame social media, but then I blame social media for LOTS!! :-/

Here is a good place with good people.

[angryworld]

Originally Posted by moon_in_leo

I am new here. I saw your post and you sounded like me. I am told ......oh your strong you will get through this......you just have to decide to be happy..... I always was the one people leaned on. But now that I desperately need someone they have disappeared. Especially my boyfriend of 10 years he won't take my calls won't respond to text. On top of dealing with this depression I now grieve for my relationship. If that wasn't bad enough I lost my aunt March 30th. I am here because I feel so alone and see that I am not the only experiencing this. Does anyone else get angry because of this?

Hello, yes, I get angry.
Tonight I am just dead inside.
I don't know how anybody feels about anything.
I'm here because this is the only place left to say anything to anyone about what's really going on in my life.
I'm sorry I don't have any nice words.
I shouldn't be interrupting your thread, I just wanted to answer the question.