my friend victoria is no longer interested in being friends with me.

we were talking about hospital, and she asked me when i was last their and how it went.

i told her it was a weekend stay because of self harm reasons

her response?

oh.. self harm is disgusting and i'm not sure why people do it. i don't want to be friends with you anymore

i really thought she understood... oh well, support circle just got a whole lot smaller (again)

[Yzen]

Sorry to hear that.

[Demunie]

I am sorry to hear that shattered.
Didn't she give you a chance to explain SH to her? That's... Oh well.

I know you probably don't want to her that, but true friends (who understand us and don't blame us) are way better than such friends.

How long have you been friends?

We're here for you...

Take care

Originally Posted by shattered sanity

my friend victoria is no longer interested in being friends with me.

we were talking about hospital, and she asked me when i was last their and how it went.

i told her it was a weekend stay because of self harm reasons

her response?

oh.. self harm is disgusting and i'm not sure why people do it. i don't want to be friends with you anymore

i really thought she understood... oh well, support circle just got a whole lot smaller (again)

A true friend will stick with you through thick and thin. I've known hundreds of people through 40 years of my adult life. I can honestly say that only one was truly a friend. The others were mere acquaintances. I hope there is at least one person in your life that you can rely on to be there for you.

I'm 59 now and incredibly cynical. I'd rather be alone. My cats are the only solace I have.

Regards, M Poirot

Even if did not do SH yourself, would you wish to be a friend of someone who held such harsh uncompromising beliefs?

[dexter]

My favorite philosophy. "I declare that I do not understand the situation or mindset. Therefore I am going to issue a judgement on said situation or mindset."

Tell her that find find people who issue derogatory labels against others for things that they are "not sure of" to be disgusting and you don't want to be friends with her anymore.

[Frankbtl]

Hi shattered,

Well excellent posts up there (!!), so not much to say...........but:

I really am sorry you were let down , but...........no, your support circle didn't get smaller, you just lost a majorly weak link out of it..........your support circle just got stronger

And, really glad you're rid of her

Alison

[Emotionally Dead]

I'm so sorry this happened. I don't have many friends, but the ones I do have I know I can trust and rely on. That's why I don't have many, I'm very careful when picking them. I know this won't help right now, but you don't need a friend like that. Someone who quits being your friend for a reason you can't help is no friend at all. Friends aren't supposed to judge each other. If anything she should have been trying to help you, not make you feel worse. We are all your friends here though, and although that might not be the same you still have our support.

[Fuzzybear]

[seesaw]

Yeah, you didn't really lose a friend. You just lost someone you hang out with from time to time. Because a real friend wouldn't judge you like that.

Seesaw

[hopeless2015]

Hugs

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[MtnTime2896]

I'm sorry to hear about that. Look, a lot of people don't get it. They don't understand because they either haven't been through it or don't want to face the fact that they have/are. You didn't need someone that flakey in you life, anyway. As much as it hurts, maybe you're better off. You lose a lot of "friends" on the road to recovery. I've personally lost several but it gets better. You'll see at the end, when all the dust settles, who your real friends are. When you do, never let them go.