[MtnTime2896]

*Trigger warning*

Now, I'm sure I'm not the only one here who's dealt with this sort of thing but just tonight my sister told me to go kill myself "or better yet, get cancer again and die this time" (her words). Now, I've been told a lot of hurtful ****. This wouldn't be the first time that I've been told this by people who's opinion I care even more about. It sucks. Being called a "PTSD freak" feels great...

Anyway, I guess I'm just opening up a thread for others to talk about their own similar experiences. Who's told you and did the relationship ever get repaired?

thank you for this thread!. i think it's going to get a lot of responses

i'm sorry about your sister... any idea why she said those types of things?

i do have an experience myself

Possible trigger:

when i was in hospital over christmas 1 year, my parents were so glad of it, that they told the hospital care team, "i hope she never gets out, i hope she dies in the hospital".

this went a step further when i did get out, and started organizing a suicide pact with someone.

my family were totally supportive of it, and even encouraged the possibility of them helping out- sadly for me, it was the last straw in an abusive family situation anyway... and we don't talk at all now.

it still hurts, a lot, not being able to rely on them for support and advice (naturally, they are the ones you are meant to look up to)

but, some parents don't deserve children... i'm sorry. but that's my thoughts

[dexter]

shattered your story has a sort of happy ending in that you found the strength and courage not to believe them and instead to believe in yourself and to cut them off for your own well being. I know it is not optimal and it hurts but thing of the positive energy and strength within you to be able to do that on your own behalf. I do hope you have found other sources of support.

Só leigheas whatever happens with you and your sister--whether you are able to repair the relationship or you have to cut her off temporarily or permanently--hope you are able to do so for the benefit of your own health.

Are you in therapy? Is there a possibility of bringing your sister to a therapy session or to a support group to help her understand what is going on with you and why her words and lack of support are so hurtful?

[cryingontheinside]

Wow I'm sad for what I'm reading. That's really hurtfull of your family members and shocking.

When I split up from the father of my children he spent 20 mins begging me to kill myself. I tried to defend myself and said that my daughters need me etc. He said they would be better off if I was dead and continued to beg me to kill myself. I guess I was just really shocked by his behaviour but to hear it off a family member must be much worse. I'm angry though for all of you and for myself because nobody has the right to tell us to kill ourselves, nobody

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[MtnTime2896]

I'm not exactly sure why. She has her own problems and I'm pretty sure she quit taking her medication. I don't know what the hell I did to set her off, though.

[ExhaustedMom]

I don't think that family members who tell you to kill yourself really mean it. They're acting out their anger and frustration for some reason. They're trying to hurt you and it's working so they keep doing it.

My daughter has told me multiple times that she has disowned me. That I should never have had children. She usually does it when she's angry or hurting for some reason. I try not to take it personally.

It's not right and what they say to us hurts deeply. Don't give up! Stay strong!

[Mondayschild]

My sister, who is 12 years younger than me has said some pretty awful stuff. I didn't think we could come back from it. We did, but there was at least a year where we didn't speak at all. It was awful. Hugs.

#Life is a beautiful lie#

Originally Posted by dexter

shattered your story has a sort of happy ending in that you found the strength and courage not to believe them and instead to believe in yourself and to cut them off for your own well being. I know it is not optimal and it hurts but thing of the positive energy and strength within you to be able to do that on your own behalf. I do hope you have found other sources of support.

Só leigheas whatever happens with you and your sister--whether you are able to repair the relationship or you have to cut her off temporarily or permanently--hope you are able to do so for the benefit of your own health.

Are you in therapy? Is there a possibility of bringing your sister to a therapy session or to a support group to help her understand what is going on with you and why her words and lack of support are so hurtful?

thanks for your post, dexter.

in terms of support, i do have this site.. and it helps me a lot to post here.

of course, it's not ideal not having real life friends you can talk to, but i know this site will be here when ever i need it

[MtnTime2896]

I quit going to therapy for a few weeks, now. To be honest, (like I said before) I've been told worse by people I really looked up to. At this point, its like jabbing at a brick wall with a pen. I notice it but it doesn't really get to me anymore.

[ScientiaOmnisEst]

At one point when I was living at home and basically being a depressive mess, my mom handed me a bottle of pills and told me to die. Then again, this was someone who sometimes woke me up with "Aren't you dead yet?"

I deserved it though, it doesn't bother me. It didn't even bother me at the time, I was just sort of numb to it.

[DayAtATime1]

Scientia, so insensitive for your mother to say such things! It's hard enough dealing with our own negative thoughts, let alone hear something like this from a parent. Wishing you wellness!